DH faking it.

[DoraTheImplorer]

Well, thought sex life was grand. Slowed down since second DC, but maybe one a week, often more if we're in the mood. But recently had sex, which was lovely. Over an hour of foreplay, followed by him from behind. I come. He carries on, does the grunt and collapses down. Kisses, cuddles, lovely 😀.
I go to the loo. Come back and he's furiously walking. Did you not come, I said? No, says he.
He basically faked it, because he'd got tired, and tried to finish off in the 2 minutes I went for a wee.
Should I be pissed off or worried, or just accept it? I've faked it before, but not for years. Now I'm concerned I can't make him cum.
Advice?

@ChronicallyCurious

I don’t understand how a many can fake it? Surely you’d be like ... where did the cum go?

Some men don't produce much. If you're very wet or using lube you wouldn't always notice.

Thanks all.
I think I was more surprised than anything, especially at how convincing he was!
I think he was probably just tired.
We often have a lot of foreplay. OK, maybe not an hour : just seems like it. Lots of hands for ages, then some oral, and them maybe he just doesn't have the energy for the final push. Or maybe he was horny but "empty".
P.S. He is 45, I am 42.
Will have discussion about how I don't mind if he wants to just stop, (once I'm done :-)).
I don't think he's viewing porn, but you never know.
Anyway, thanks for the reassurance.
I would be more concerned if he faked it before I came! :-)

To be fair I think quite a lot of people don't always orgasm with PIV.

He can stop before you're done if he wants. I know you'll say you're joking, but it's not something to joke about.

I would be relaxed about it but communicate openly. If now and then it doesn’t happen, so be it.

But unlike another poster, l would say an hour or so of foreplay is about right.

An hour of foreplay would send me off to sleep too!!!!!

I would ignore the comments about porn.
These are go to comments for some to try and blame him and sow seeds of doubts in your relationship. I am surprised that no one has accused of having an affair yet!!

I think the post which suggest having a chat with him not to feel uncomfortable to stop if he wants to even if he hasn't cum is an excellent one. Open communication is always the best way for good sex and in a relationship in general.

Cheese that's stupid advice...telling OP to ignore the comments about porn. It's well known that porn can cause this sort of thing.

Why should OP ignore it as a possibility?

Whatever it is, if you make a big deal out of it you'll make him more anxious and the pressure might make things worse.

@FortunesFave
Because there are many, many more reasons why he didn't cum.
Would you say to a DH that the reason his wife didn't cum was because she watches too much porn, and if not why not as it is a possibility and for the reasons you have stipulated ( saying that if you did I would applaud your fairness but caution you on your porn fixation).
At the end of day, anything is possible but to go straight to the worst possibilities, especially as the OP has not indicated that being a possibility, shows a certain type of attitude, that I feel is not trying to be helpful.

@Raidblunner

Faking it? Why? Whats the point? Why lie to protect someone's ego?

I dunno, I'll never understand that.

My bf doesn't always 'finish' either. He is on various meds which can affect him sometimes. After a while he will usually just say "it's not gonna happen tonight" and we'll call it a day. I try sometimes to use my hands as I feel bad for him but that doesn't usually work either.

He still enjoys himself, just can't quite get to the finish line all the time.

regarding not knowing if he is faking it - I agree with the amount produced varying from man to man. With my ex husband I always had to dash to the toilet after to avoid a mess but with my bf there isn't much at all (when it happens)...which is much nicer!

On reflection, l hope from some of the comments here, that certain posters never become members of a jury.

Cheese yes...many reasons. That doesn't mean OP should completely discount one of them! It sounds like you've got personal issues with the subject and you're putting them on OP.

@FortunesFave
Haha good try- my objection is not with the subject but the fact that ppl like you want to demonise DH's.
There are many posts about women not having organisms, I would be interested if you have ever put your porn comment on any of those, some how I very much doubt it and if you have commented on them it would be much more supportive of her.