Online dating

[Lilye88]

Hi,

Single for about 2 years - tinder is horrific. So I swiped right on there and matched with a bloke I went to school with (fancied him back then 21 years ago) we’ve been messaging etc but I’m not a one night stand kinda person which I’ve told him but every message mentions sex. Is he worth going on a date with do you think? He’s bailed on a date already. I just feel a bit silly atm lockdown getting to me I think

Hes just looking for a shag. If you just want a one-nighter, go for it. If you want a proper relationship, just throw this one back and keep looking.

Thanks that’s what I guessed. I’m destined to be single! The tinder search carries on.

no you're not! just this particular bloke is making it clear he's only up for one thing.

no harm done, he was honest, keep looking.

Another app might be a better bet though than tinder, for a freebie, even bumble is a bit less of a meat market!

If he’s already flaked on one date and he keeps mentioning sex, I don’t think he’s worth meeting. Unless you just fancy getting out of the house for an evening, it might be fun to catch up?

Definitely don't meet him if you don't want a sex date. That's all he wants.

There are plenty of men online. There are many who will be unsuitable but you only need the one. Don't take things personally and don't get invested until it is something. I've done online dating for a couple of years, met a few nice guys, had brief relationships with two and now seem to have met someone perfect.

I enjoy my life with my family and friends and hobbies and work. Having a man just makes life more fun but only if it is the right man.

Thanks guys for your advice. Nah I’ve passed on him and told him was great to catch up. Apparently I flaked out because I wouldn’t sleep with him, his loss my gain.