REALLY embarresing sex question ... :(

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Hiya

Ive name changed for this as its been on my mind for a while but could not bear to post it under my usual name!

When me and DP have sex I end up at some point getting 'fanjo wind'

Its really not funny and I ended up crying last night. We just ignore it but its so embarresing. We have been together for years so its not mortifying but I still hate its and it kills the mood.

I feel like its because ive had kids and Im baggy.

Can anything be done?

We do move around alot during sex, usually do about 4/5 positions during one session and I know all that moving about may add to it - but I dont want to lie there like a pensioner.

Any advice?

Please don't laugh or make jokes as this is really getting me down, we have only just started having sex regularly again and its really putting me off

Any time it happens between us, we both end up creased up in bed howling with laughter. Its not as bad as the time he farted whilst I was doing oral on him and I bit him in retaliation, because he PROMISED he would always warn me.

Its a natural thing, air gets pushed in, it has to come out somehow, either later quietly without fuss, or during like a fanfare of trumpets, telling the whole world how much you are enjoying yourself.

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I think the best thing is to have a good laugh about it together when it happens - after all hopefully you have both just had the Big O and so who the hell cares about a bit of spare air! Works for us ... I'm more worried about my flabby tummy TBH

My DH actually likes a bit of wind, he says it tickles him, and increases his pleasure.

have had it a bit with sex. i say its normal. we both just giggle a bit then get on with it. my dh just says its do to his small penis and makes a joke of it.
dont know if there is anything that will help it?

me and dp move around a lot during sex and so i get it quite a lot, ocassionally VERY loud. The first time it happened i was embarrased but dp made a joke about it and we had a laugh about it and now it doesn't bother me. Its just part of sex

mamaz has it right. Also quite a few people (and me) just find this natural and importantly before children. I don't think it has a thing to do with giving birth or stretching or vaginal lack of tightness actually.

Hi Mother. Just thought of another idea for you. Because doggy is off cards (high trapped air potential), missionary can be seen as boring, and you feel uncomfortable about conventional on top (stretch marks), what about your other half sat on a dining type chair, and you on top of him? This is a favourite - I find it more comfortable than usual on-top - and it means you can be very intimate without kind of "displaying" yourself. HTH

Play some music while doing It. Should drown out any noises. ANd remember fanny farts are not as bad as farty farts during sex: quacking away like an outboard motor when he's in the vinegar strokes can put a man off something rotten, let alone the fact that fanny farts at least don't smell.
(Can you tell I have a healthy diet with lots of vegetables and fibre in it, people?)

SOrry to hear you are finding this upsetting, and would agree with the posters who have suggested kegel exercises and avoiding rear-entry positions,but if your bloke is a longstanding regular partner then he's unlikely to mind or even notice the odd thrrrrrp while he's enjoying himself (and the same applies to most men and most relationships, really...)

Hopefully the number of posters admitting it happens to them too will help you feel better about it.
Likely that anyone who has had a a few partners will have experienced it before.
I am guiltiest of it during coming but frankly don't care at that point and told dh it shows my complete and wild abandonment!

I was told by a gynae that to really tone up you need to do 20 minutes twice a day for 6 months. It is very important that you do them the right way- no holding your breath or tensing the tummy muscles. Aim for 50 aqueezes a day minimum.

You can also buy pelvic toners (bit like a dildo!) or cone shaped weights- you can get all these on line.

If you have really bad slackness you can have an op- I did- for prolapse, but that is when things are quite bad.

Good luck!