I have been single most of my adult life and feel like it's not going to change now!

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So i had my daughter when I was in my early twenties and after a bad relationship with her dad I decided to focus on myself and my daughter and I didnt want to be the mum who has lots of different men in and out of my house.

I had a realationship for one year a few years ago and recently had a relationship for about 8 months.

Most people I know are in longterm relationships and I always thought I would be at sometime too, but I think as I'm getting older it seems to be harder to find a nice guy to settle down with.

Also with the whole covid situation it's even more difficult to meet someone and im not keen on online dating.

Perhaps when my dd is older I will have more time then to try to meet someone but I do wonder if I will be single forever!

You can't walk straight into a long term relationship, it doesn't always happen and sometimes a few short term ones have to happen first, learning about what and who you want. It'll only happen if you keep looking.

Well children are for life, and relationships aren't necessarily. You sound like you're doing fine. I'd focus on you and her for now, and maybe when she's older and you can get out and about a bit more, someone nice will cross your path. Like you say, tricky right now anyway, but it won't always stay the same. Statistically you'll meet someone at some point

Reading with interest - am in similar ish position, although I think I feel differently about it.

I was in a 4yr (bad) relationship as a young adult. Then a 1yr one. After this I deliberately took some time away from relationships. Was about 1 year single when I had DC1 (planned, donor-conceived), was single until he was 3, then had a couple of relationships in quick succession which began well but didn’t make it past 3 months’ duration; in retrospect, I wasn’t in a place where I was able to combine relationships + parenthood, but I think I learned a lot from both attempts. Single single single, DC2, single single...

DC are now 8 and 2 and I feel emotionally capable of having a good relationship but logistically constrained! Finding time for both children plus work plus me is hard enough - adding someone else into the mix would be tricky. I definitely don’t feel that I have the luxury of time to date around properly to find someone - it seems a really inefficient prospect and not worth the sacrifice/effort! I feel like if the right person fell into our lives I would be ready, but realistically it may be many years. I feel OK about that though, it doesn’t feel like ‘never’ or like the chances will all be gone by the time I have the spare capacity or whatever. I have noticed though that many of the friends who used to be my long-term single friends seem to be no longer single, and it’s a bit strange noticing that.