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How to show my fun side during dating?

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Bunnymumy · 09/10/2020 22:58

So I had a wonderful date the other day (miracles do happen lol) and I'm actually a little giddy at the thought of seeing him again.

The next date is an activity date (gallary).

I could do with some advice on how to show my fun side (not a euphemism haha). Especially in terms of actions. It's good we can chat with ease but I'd like to show I have a little bit of a wild side as well (I mean, fun wild, not batshit wild lol).

Anyone got ideas?

Or could you ask your partner for me about little things that endeared them to you early on? (Not looking to change myself, but just if they were something I could focus on doing more of).

Please and thankyou :)

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Foreverlexicon · 10/10/2020 00:35

So my partner once said one of the moments when we were early dating that really endeared me to her, we had been in bed and could hear it raining. She got up and opened the curtains and said ‘oh it’s raining’ And I can be a bit sarky and said ‘I mean it’s not like you didn’t know’. Until she told me that really made her realise she liked me, I’d never of known. I was just being me.

Just be you.

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Bunnymumy · 10/10/2020 00:44

Aww thars really cute @Foreverlexicon.

Not he isnt the serious type, and is a fair bit younger than me too (26 to my 32).

Thanks to all else who made the effort to comment without being sarcy gits lol. I guess itll just be a case of winging it as per usual and hoping for the best. Fingers crossed I manage not to balz it up haha.

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widespreadpanic · 10/10/2020 00:47

Just be yourself and have fun. You’ll miss out on enjoying the date if you are worried about being something you’re naturally you’re not.

And 6 years is really not a large of an age gap at your ages. So just have fun!

RobertaTheGreat · 10/10/2020 00:55

Stink bombs? Set off the fire alarm? Stage a one woman flash mob of 'What Does The Fox Say'?

FlowerPower35 · 10/10/2020 01:02

As previous posters have said, just be yourself. Don't overthink it :)
After you've been round the gallery, go for a drink? Thats what i've always done. Just to break the ice a bit more. Always worked!! Enjoy it

GetThatHelmetOn · 10/10/2020 09:18

A good comment over the art can get you much further. It seems to me that you don’t know much about art and you have no time to learn much before the next date, but simply choosing something you like and talk about how it makes you feel about it can make a big difference. It shows you can get to appreciate what he does appreciate.

If there is one thing that made me stop and pay attention to my OH in all the noise of OLD, was that he said that the composition of my landscape photos was amazing. Forget about the positive comment, he used a word that within a second let me know we could get to an understanding

Tilly566 · 10/10/2020 09:27

I am too going to a gallery for my next date with my husband ( today actually) ,. It's nice to see your excitement and nerves! I think that is a very good thing! In my opinion , just be yourself. But if you want to be a bit daft and crazy, read the audience (him) and see how it goes, do it in the moment and authentically.

My husband decided to go a bit nuts on our first date and do some pretty annoying stuff ( I'm sure you wouldn't be annoying).... We only made a second meeting because I got dragged along in a double date but I was happy to never see him again!.... Turns out it was nerves and he calmed down a lot.

Good luck! And enjoy it. It's all that matters at the end of the day!

Ulpo · 10/10/2020 09:33

Just be yourself, please god no pulling funny faces, and just enjoy it.

Tilly566 · 10/10/2020 09:34

Oh and I'm thinking the first thing my husband did to endear me was sing a Bon Jovi song to me one night! So start singing crazy in the middle of the gallery and you might be onto a winner!

LilOldMe · 10/10/2020 09:36

OP, as soon as you poll a Mum’s chat forum to research “fun” things to do on a second date in an art gallery, you lose the right to describe yourself as “wild”.

SimonJT · 10/10/2020 09:48

Our second proper date was to a gallery, hope you haven’t stolen my boyfriend!

I’m either quiet and not very talkative when I meet someone new, or I go full on constant ramble. I was in quiet mode for our first date, he took me to a gallery on the second one which I now know is because there wouldn’t be pressure to talk about anything apaart from the exhibition.

Just be yourself.

IdblowJonSnow · 10/10/2020 09:54

I would love to be a fly on the wall on this date if you're going to pull silly faces etc.
How about pulling a moonie?
Hope it goes well, you sound smitten.

JorisBonson · 10/10/2020 11:25

Just keep telling him how crazy and bonkers you are, that denotes a fun personality.

workhomesleeprepeat · 10/10/2020 11:30

Just be yourself.

There is literally nothing worse than someone trying to show how ‘wacky’ they are

You sound fun! No need to ham it up to cringe level

ClementineWoolysocks · 10/10/2020 11:37

If you're genuinely fun and having fun then that's going to come across, there's no need to put on an act, that's going to be exhausting to keep up with.

GunsAndShips · 10/10/2020 11:46

In a man, it's usually a novelty tie that announces a wacky personality.

For a woman, you just say it. The correct phrase is "I'm mad me". Whilst giggling. If you refer to your friends as "The Girls", that will help. If he's really not getting it: "I love my lambrini me".

When I go to a gallery, I tend to chat, look at the art, wander, go to the cafe and eat cake etc. I suppose you could keep leaping out from behind priceless pieces of art whilst screaming "bazinga!" Or draw a tache on a Rembrandt with a Sharpie.

SoMuchLaundry · 10/10/2020 11:51

This thread has made my head hurt.

Surely, if you have a fun side, it will come out anyway?

Farcry66 · 10/10/2020 11:51

My second date with my DP was watching him conduct the church choir concert he wore full robes and everything, that did it for me. You could try that!

CandidaAlbicans2 · 10/10/2020 13:12

Colin Hunt springs to mind!

🤢😆
OP, just try and relax and let your "fun side" come out naturally. If you try and put on an act it'll seem OTT and fake which would be incredibly cringeworthy as well as unsustainable.

Thesheerrelief · 10/10/2020 13:50

Taking photos pulling faces next to the paintings sounds terrible and possibly quite offputting if he likes galleries.

It sounds like you're nervous and want to make him like you. That's totally normal. Remember it was you being yourself that he liked on the first date so try to relax!

fatherliamdeliverance · 11/10/2020 10:45

Just be yourself, please, OP. if I was on a second date and a man started taking pictures making faces a propos of nothing, I would be straight out of there. Then have a drink afterwards to break the ice and have a giggle.

Madcap isn't the only kind of fun character. I do like the idea of drawing a tache on a renaissance altarpiece though. Maybe some boobs too...

MrJollyLivesNextDoor · 11/10/2020 10:59

Go dressed as Sister Wendy

PicsInRed · 11/10/2020 12:57

It's not natural if you have to preplan and script it.

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