Abusive ex husband trying to move next door to me

[deepwater71]

Posting for advice, my abusive ex husband is doing his best to secure a house (council swap) that borders on to my garden, it's been 3 years since I got away from him after he assaulted me (was convicted) after that he stalked me right up until the lockdown. I've spoken to the council, all they are saying its they will take my concerns on board, is there anything else I can do to stop this happening? Literally cannot imagine why he would want to do this, obviously I have no contact with him!

Do you have a restraining order?

The council would have to be insane to let him live there. Or anywhere - why is he entitled to a council house?

I would be applying for a restraining order immediately and also raising your concerns with the police right now. This is stalking at its most serious.

Contact your councillor, they may be able to sway the decision.

Go to your MP?

Call women’s aid, get a non molestation order against him.

Speak to the police.

And yes, police, solicitor, look into restraining order that prevents him from coming within a certain distance

Unfortunately not, I went to the police numerous times about him approaching me in the street being abusive, speaking to my friends trying to convince them I was the problem, interfering my my job, leaving things on my doorstep, posting letters on my car, doing drive bys but was never enough to get one apparently

Who’s your local MP? This is just the sort of thing they’re good at. One well-directed letter and the senior managers are checking up on the office juniors...

Hollowtalk he was awarded a council house a month after assaulting me! I will find out who my mp is

Thank you for everyones advice

Go back to the police again and send a solicitors letter to the council telling them that this abusive man is stalking you and you will sue them if they put him anywhere near you.

he was awarded a council house a month after assaulting me

On what grounds?

I think I would be going to my MP with that information too

Health issues, he has ruined his health by drinking and smoking everyday and now has copd, I couldn't believe it either

Again thank you for your replies, this has knocked me for six I can't be dealing with him again to be honest

My adopted child's birth mother moved within half a mile of our house (she knew where we lived ) and the council didn't tell us and didn't care when I told them about it and said that I had an issue with her sending one of her kids to a nursery at the end of our round

Oh that's awful

Sorry, I really didn't make a point! I meant to say councils are shit

Hopefully they will listen to me, I'm not going to let it lie and will be contacting people first thing on monday!

I’m sorry you are having to deal with this. I’ve always found the national centre for domestic violence good with advice. They can be contacted on 08009702070.

Do you own or rent your home do you have children with him do you have a conviction against him

Vannabanana thanks for that I hadn't heard of the, I've been on to a stalking helpline so far

My house is council rented

He was the one who assaulted me if that wasn't clear and was convicted