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[Belle124]

We had an argue, I got upset and shouted at him, he left the room and told me that I’m not going to talk to him like that and he will “smash my teeth down to my throat next time”. I shouted back that he is abusive and so was he 🙈 He then apologised but blamed me on driving him crazy. I don’t know what to think. I know that he wouldn’t do anything like that but the fact I’m being spoken to like that it’s crazy for me! We’re both educated people, how did we get here?!

@Opentooffers thank you for you comment. The thing is that we struggle with open communication- I’m more on emotional side, he is very logic person. I don’t think that we can talk, everything is always my fault and I’m the only one who should change. This is not the way to go. I have to question my reaction and responses 1000 times when in reality I should just feel comfortable to be myself around him . Lack of sex is the only problem he is interested in and doesn’t see that I’m not willing to have sex with someone who treats me poorly as an example “he acted this or that way or called me a name as I provoked him and deserved that hence there won’t be any apology”- this is what he usually says...

Oh dear op, definately on it's way to an abusive relationship. Theres just do much wrong with the way he is talking to you.

He cant blame it on heat of the moment anger if he followed you out of the room to continue the 'argument' (abuse). And there is absolutely no excuse ever to threaten someone with physical violence. How dare he say it was your fault!

He is scary op. And 100% will do this and worse again as he has no remorse.

Look into getting free of him now. What is the housing situation? Do you have savings? Is there a friend you can chat too?

When you say you work together - do you own a business together? Or are you fellow employees in a big company ?

If the latter, then you leave just like anyone else.

1. Ask for a transfer to a different department / office
2. Apply for a new job in the same company
3. Apply for a job else where

Do you own or rent?

He is abusive.
Leave him, or get him out of your house
Which ever is applicable.