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So odd

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whataday12 · 09/10/2020 07:49

Hi just wondering if I am just an odd person or is this an actually thing that happens ?
I have fancied this man I work with for 3 years . Fancied like hell ! All I could think of it one point . Now a few weeks back he actually came out with he has feelings for me and always has . He's really in to me and obviously I am glad he feels the same as me but in a way I'm not . He came over and we watched a film and had food . We did nothing not even kiss. But that's because of me . I have oddly gone off him and the more open he is about his feelings and how much he fancies me ect it's making me cringe and totally dislike him to the point now that I don't think I really fancy him no more . The thought of even kissing him doesn't do it for me either ! What the hell 😳

OP posts:
cupofteaaa · 09/10/2020 07:53

It's called the ick! I have got it for every man in my life apart from the ones who didn't want me back and my husband! Perfectly normal amongst me and friends. Don't force it OP. If you're not feeling it, you don't have to pursue anything.

LockdownLoopy · 09/10/2020 08:34

Maybe you just liked the fantasy of it, and the reality is a completely different story? Could be that you thought he was hot and sexy and then his personality outside of work gave you the ick. Just let him know you’re not feeling it and move on.

thesix · 09/10/2020 08:56

Ask yourself... if he went off you would you like him again?
I do this also - it's annoying and I don't know why it happens! It must be something to do with the chase. Agree with PP you can't force it Confused

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whataday12 · 09/10/2020 10:51

I feel so bad 😂 he's so lovely , contacts me everyday always wanting to see me . Everything I want really so that's why I don't know what's bloody happened lol . He wants to see me later on . I might just turn my phone off for the night to think things through . What if it's just an odd stage I'm going through. Oh my god!!!! I felt like like with my ex!!!!! I was with him ten years but at the start I felt exactly the same x

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Sunflower1970 · 13/10/2020 08:28

Maybe you are just after the drama and excitement and the thrill if the chase? If you are just leading him in I would let him down gently xx

custardbear · 13/10/2020 08:32

Are you a man? 😉 happy with the chase and the capture but then the fun drains out of it

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