New relationship and lockdown

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I've met a great girl. We started chatting in lockdown and when lockdown lifted we met and hit it off. We had about 10 dates/meets and one night away and it was great.

The down side is, she doesn't live in my area and lives about an hour away. Unfortunately I have yet again gone into a local lockdown meaning I can't leave my area. Obviously this is gutting because we were just starting to really get somewhere. She's told me she will wait, that she's not going anywhere and I have said the same to her. And I won't. But I can't help feel anxiety that this distance is going to make me lose her. We still chat daily on the phone but I'm worried how long she will stick around as none of us know how long I will be lockdown for.

I'm trying to remain positive when I talk to her and upbeat but I can't help feel alotof anxiety about this. Plus I miss her loads. More than I thought I would.

Is anyone in the same boat and have any tips? I literally feel I've no control over anything with this.

Well you dont have any control. Why not accept her at her word and continue to enjoy what you have? The other option is to cause yourself untold anxiety over a situation you have no control over. I know what I'd choose ;)

Ah how lovely for you both. How old are you?

There are no guarantees with relationships but I think most people would be tolerant given we could have a mini country wide lockdown in a few weeks.

I suggest you speak to her and let her know that the lack of physical contact will challenge your newly forming relationship and you hope it doesn't. I think its fair to ask that if she is having a change of heart then it would be best to tell you straight.

If she reassures you and agrees that she would be open if her feelings change then all you can do is trust. If you feel anxious, talk yourself through the emotions and find ways to self soothe yourself.

Also remind yourself...it is still early days so you don't know each other yet. Enjoy the loved up feelings but know that if anything did happen you would survive and cope.

@techway in our 30s. I'm just going to remain my positive happy self. I guess she will either stick around or won't

I think a lot of people met before lockdown (I met someone myself) guess we just have to be patient and hope they stick around !!

Why would you not meet despite the lockdown? The lockdown is based on PCR tests that are unreliable. There is hardly anyone who genuinely have the virus. Don't believe scare mongering.
I am breaking the stupid rules every day.
If I were in your situation I would not think twice about meeting up with a girlfriend.

I have been with my partner about 18 months but I am a nurse while he is extremely vulnerable.
Through the first lockdown we didn't really see each other. I would drop his shopping on his patio but no more.

But the right to form a support bubble came in and is still there if either or both are single adult households. Effectively your bubble is your household. We formed one meaning we can spend time together though he is still very scared and I fully expect him to choose to isolate from me if number of positive contacts increase further.
Ii don't know if this will apply to your situation but worth considering.
If not just try to trust that what will be will be and you may well come out stronger for having tested the relationship.
Good luck

I’d only been seeing my partner for four months or so when the first lockdown started, and we also live in different cities so didn’t see each other again until June.

It was hard, but we stayed together. We chatted a lot, but we also had proper ‘dates’ where we got dressed up a bit and had dinner and watched a film together or something like that. We also got a bit creative with the video sex. Ahem.

In many ways, I’m pretty proud of us and how we kept things going, even though I’m not sure I’d ever want to do it again!

If the relationship is real i.e. if it is meant to last then it will despite the barriers.

As for the poster upthread saying don’t stick to the rules, this is why we had 17.5k infections recorded yesterday, and the reason why, if people continue to stick their fingers in their ears and pretend they don’t care, the whole country will end up back in lockdown by Christmas.

@AlternativePerspective
17.5K positive tests results not infection.
Infection means someone with symptoms.
86% if those with positive results don't have any symptoms and are healthy .
Lockdown doesn't stop virus. It's about control.
The government want people to be miserable and lonely. It's easier to control them and make them take unlicensed vaccine.
Live your lives, stop watching BBC propaganda and do some independent research.

@lunar567 are you always this stupid and irresponsible?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/coronavirus/4026357-nhsers-how-are-we-doing-feeling-calm-before-the-storm

@Lunar567 May I suggest you read this for 'research'.

[quote Lunar567]@AlternativePerspective
17.5K positive tests results not infection.
Infection means someone with symptoms.
86% if those with positive results don't have any symptoms and are healthy .
Lockdown doesn't stop virus. It's about control.
The government want people to be miserable and lonely. It's easier to control them and make them take unlicensed vaccine.
Live your lives, stop watching BBC propaganda and do some independent research.[/quote]
Thanks for putting us all at risk, cheers 👍🏻

@CupidStunt2020
Haha
I know Mumsnet is full of trolls and is used for propaganda.
Instead if calling me name can you prove me wrong?

@slidingdrawers

More Mumsnet propaganda about the killer virus?
Stop living in fear. It's bad for your health.
NHS is now Covid only service and letting people down who have other problems.

Well, I suppose the one positive is that the stupid people such as the PP above will catch the virus while I likely won’t.

You enjoy now.

[quote Lunar567]@AlternativePerspective
17.5K positive tests results not infection.
Infection means someone with symptoms.
86% if those with positive results don't have any symptoms and are healthy .
Lockdown doesn't stop virus. It's about control.
The government want people to be miserable and lonely. It's easier to control them and make them take unlicensed vaccine.
Live your lives, stop watching BBC propaganda and do some independent research.[/quote]
As a biologist I can assure you that infection is infection even without symptoms. Infections have signs (e.g. a positive test for the infection) but not necessarily symptoms (i.e. what the person themselves experiences). Therefore someone who is infected but without symptoms is not "healthy" as you state - they can still pass the infection on. I suggest you do some independent research yourself!

@askevans

Are you a biologist expert as good as Ferguson who predicted 500000 deaths?

It has been proven asymptomatic people don't spread the virus

[quote Lunar567]@askevans

Are you a biologist expert as good as Ferguson who predicted 500000 deaths?

It has been proven asymptomatic people don't spread the virus[/quote]
Ah...that would be "former adviser"
to the government Ferguson who admitted an error of judgement when he visited hid lover during lockdown and resigned.
And the same Ferguson who admitted that his Imperial College model of the COVID-19 disease was based on undocumented, 13-year-old computer code that was intended to be used for a. influenza pandemic, rather than for coronavirus and so was incorrect.
And the same Ferguson that predicted in 2002 that up to 50,000 people would likely die from exposure to BSE (mad cow disease) in beef. In the U.K., there were only 177 deaths from BSE.
And the same Ferguson that in 2005, predicted that up to 150 million people could be killed from bird flu. In the end, only 282 people died worldwide from the disease between 2003 and 2009.
And the same Ferguson that is in fact an epidemiologist not a biologist and therefore is not qualified to comment on whether asymptomatic patients can spread coronavirus.
I would seriously advise you ignore his "guesswork" if I were you, as that is all it is.

A one hour flight or one hour car/train/bus?? One hour flight I understand but if it'd by car etc it really is nothing at all one hour is nothing so I think you shouldn't worry and if you both want it you can make it work

@AskEvans 👏👏👏👏👏