AAAAH! MIL's

[DLP]

Is it just me or should i be annoyed?

my mil and fil live about two hours drive away. neither of them drive but have plenty of money. they visit us once a year and my DH and MIL expects me to go to MIL and FIL's every couple of months with our 11mth old DS. Now his MIL has arranged everything for us to go and stay during Xmas and New Year!!!!! and my DH has agreed!!!!!!! aaahhh should I be annoyed because we have to do all the travelling?

I think I would be very annoyed if the arrangements had been made without consulting me first.

thanks, just wanted to know i wasn't alone. had planned to have a nice quiet xmas at home

DLP - Very annoyed!

I have similar situation as MIL and FIL (live separately) live 250 miles away. FIL never causes a fuss but MIL always wants us to go down and visit - we've just been down in September for SIL wedding with DS1 age 3, DS2 age 22 months and DS3 was 3 weeks!!!!! NOW, she wants us to go again in November or Xmas - she seems to have no concept of how hard it is to make that journey with the 3 of them, it's stressful all trying to squash into their house, you've got to pack 60,000 suitcases of stuff......

She's always complaining that we don't visit enough - usually we'll get down there 2 or 3 times a year which I know is not lots but it would be much easier for her to make a train journey (can't drive) to us where there is space for her to stay and it saves us packing everything but the sink!

SIL,BIL and neice never come here either - BIL plays golf all day every Saturday so wouldn't give that up unless it was a special celebration we were having and SIL, although can drive perfectly well, will not go on the motorway!! THey don't mind me bloody doing it..

Ooooh, you've got me all worked up now!

it is annoying, y MIL and FIl don't drive but they dont seem to realise that we only have a small car and we need to take everything but the kitchen sink - theyonly need underwear. when we visit we have to take our own airbed and as for my BIL well he gave my DH the "oh you never come for a drink with me when you visit", when we do visit we never see him!!! aaggh

I would be very annoye if my dh didn't consult me too. Couldn't you say you've already booked a suprise holiday away or something?!

unfortunately not vict17, since having DS have been working less hours at work and DH knows i cannot afford to go booking holidays!

What is about families and travelling? my parents are just the same - I get the whole "you don't visit often enough, we haven't seen you for 3 days, you and DP/DS could settle in the nearby city and commute(!)" malarky and yet when I mention the number of times they have visited me in a year there is an eery silence.

When that rare blue moon does come by they are out of the door as soon as they are in because Dad hates driving and wants "to get on the road" . . . he was in the RAF ffs, we, as a family, covered the UK and then some

I have given up and am now issuing ultimatums - we ain't going till they come to us for once!

hey, we must all be related - or either when you become a grandparent you become selfish!!!

oooh, don't even get me started on another IL (in my case, fill in the first initial as appropriate!) thread!

I think a lot of the next generation don't have any conception of the effort involved in making these journeys with kids. I don;t even feel that keemn on holidays any more with 2 children - it's hell when you get there and they dont have all their favourite stuff.

I'd be spitting if I were you. Does your DH know jow you feel?

no - he thinks i am a spolt brat and will say i am just being selfish