Just sex?

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I would like the opinion of both men and woman on this one....
My ex cheated on me with the same woman 3 times.

He claims that their relationship was not based on sex but more of an "emotional connection"

He also claims that he didnt really enjoy the sex with them and found them to be unattractive in that way.....it was guaranteed sex with this woman.

I think he is talking sh*t - would a man have sex with someone more than once if they found them to be unattractive and didnt enjoy it?

I am interested to hear what everyone else thinks...

It would be interesting to hear the opinion of some men also...

Complete and utter bollox. I'd have more respect for him if he had said it was just sex and there as no emotional connection.

It's irrelevant.
I think many men would and many wouldn't but it makes no difference.
If he had sex with someone he didn't like then he's a scumbag.
If he cheated on you with someone he did like then he's a scumbag.
What's clear is he treats women like shit and you deserve better.

Does it matter?
Dump him move on. Don’t look back. You are worth so much more

PP's are right, don't let him off the hook. Some cheaters do slag off the other woman because they think it'll go down well. Yet he still can't bring himself to say he didn't like her as a person.

He claims that their relationship was not based on sex but more of an "emotional connection"

To be honest that’s worse!

It doesn’t matter. He’s your ex. Move on.

My interpretation is:

1. He really likes her, but you're a better ride.
2. He thinks you're stupid enough to think "better ride" = "he'll stay with me".

This is good in any way for you OP.

I have a gay friend who will occassionally have sex with women because "sometimes any hole will do". At least he's honest about it. Your bloke wasn't honest, forget him.

My ex use to show me pictures of his female friend and point out how ugly she was and say "I can't believe yoquite paranoid that I'd fancy that!"

Turns out they were shagging just before we got together, and possibly during.

Don't believe this fool.

He's a twat. Forget the whole thing and completely cut contact with him.

Honestly, the shit they come out with!

I think he's a cheating dickhead whose desperately trying to roll out any old BS in the hope it'll justify he cheated. I wouldn't give it anymore thought period.

@rorosemary

I have a gay friend who will occassionally have sex with women because "sometimes any hole will do". At least he's honest about it. Your bloke wasn't honest, forget him.

Vile person l

Well I guess if you’re hungry you will eat things that ordinarily you wouldn’t consider so it’s probably like that.

Some men definitely sleep with women they aren’t attracted to. Still doesn’t excuse him cheating

Bloke here.

OP you said he "didnt really enjoy the sex with them" I think the word really in there is the weasel word. Yes, he enjoyed it but...

Personally I did, in my youth, end up in bed with people who in the cold light of day I didn't find attractive but I'll plead callowness, and beer which I know are TERRIBLE excuses but it was a long time ago. When that did happen I don't ever recall going back (or getting invited back) for seconds.

Theres been many threads of women having kids with men who repulse them, so women do it too.

Some men will fuck anyone even if they don't find them attractive - just because they want sex.

However it's a bullshit excuse for not being faithful. Irrelevant.

Why does it bother you so much if you are no longer together ?.

He didn't enjoy sex with the OW the first time so he went back and tried it twice again 🤪

Yes, he's talking shit.

Regardless of the fact that it's bullshit, his excuse is actually more hurtful. He's saying he had sex with somebody who had a strong emotional connection to him, regardless of how attractive she is; so that's both an emotional affair and a physical one. Emotional affairs by themselves are awful. I can't phrase what I'm thinking very well, but the gist is that is less hurtful when they say 'it was just sex and I felt nothing for her'.

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