I am not valued

[Kdoo]

I’m not really sure where I go or what I do but all I know is I’m so miserable and fed up.
I have been with my husband 12 years, married for 4 and we have a child.
My husband has always been quite insecure about himself and for nearly all our relationship I have avoided discussing if I find other men attractive etc as he says he doesn’t find other woman attractive and if I find another person good looking I should be with them. It has over the years caused a lot of problems between us.
I’m at a point where I am so fed up of walking on eggshells all the time.
I feel completely unvalued, he provides me with no help at home, all the housework is left to me, he doesn’t pick anything up after himself and literally where things all is where they stay unless I tidy up. I honestly feel like I am simply the cleaner to him.
I find myself feeling so low and constantly desire the feeling of being loved and appreciated and feeling there is no hope for me in this relationship.
The fact that for him, his views are so different to mine in so many ways, we don’t laugh together and watching a film or anything with a good looking man is so uncomfortable for fear of the tons of questions I will get after what am I going to do??

Getting a divorce would seem like your best option.

Good grief, op. This is no way to live, and you don't have to. He is nothing but an anchor around your neck, drowning you in misery. End it and have the happy life you deserve.

He sounds dreadful, controlling and extremely insecure. How is he positively contributing to your life? Either consider therapy or leave him.

@Kdoo

I’m not really sure where I go or what I do but all I know is I’m so miserable and fed up. I have been with my husband 12 years, married for 4 and we have a child. My husband has always been quite insecure about himself and for nearly all our relationship I have avoided discussing if I find other men attractive etc as he says he doesn’t find other woman attractive and if I find another person good looking I should be with them. It has over the years caused a lot of problems between us. I’m at a point where I am so fed up of walking on eggshells all the time. I feel completely unvalued, he provides me with no help at home, all the housework is left to me, he doesn’t pick anything up after himself and literally where things all is where they stay unless I tidy up. I honestly feel like I am simply the cleaner to him. I find myself feeling so low and constantly desire the feeling of being loved and appreciated and feeling there is no hope for me in this relationship. The fact that for him, his views are so different to mine in so many ways, we don’t laugh together and watching a film or anything with a good looking man is so uncomfortable for fear of the tons of questions I will get after what am I going to do??

I think the first thing you have to do is value yourself. When you live with someone who drains the life out of you, it's easy to feel worthless.

Why should you have to tread on eggshells around him ?
Why should you wait on him like a maid ?