abuser now living in paradise

[jasminepeony]

I don't know why this is making me so sad, but I've just found out the person who made my life hell for years is now living and working on a tropical island after finally being able to leave the country. A mutual friend informed me of this news after seeing a bunch of their photos on social media, surrounding by palm trees and sunshine.

It just feels so unfair that such a nasty person can be living a life I can only dream of. I know it's not healthy and certainly not very human of me, but I was sort of hoping they'd get a reality check at some point and get some kind of payback for what I (and several others) went through.

Anyone else relate to this? Someone who made your life hell living a "better" life now?

They took themselves with them. They will still make the same mistakes, just near sand and palm trees.

Tropical island does not equal paradise.

Tourists visit them during the nicest seasons and stay in hotels, relaxing. Of course it's a paradise for them. But people who live there stay there all the year round and get to experience the hurricane/monsoon/ultra-hot-and-humid season, the mosquitoes and cockroaches, the super-expensive utility bills and limited groceries, the need to actually get up and do a job every day in that heat rather than just lie on the beach. The dodgy infrastructure, the need to bribe officials to get the simplest admin done, the political instability, the need to pay for healthcare (and often poor quality healthcare), the claustrophobically small circle of "friends" based on who happens to be on that small island and share a language/culture with you.

Obviously not all these things are true of all places, but I've lived as an expat in too many places to think that a place that looks good on Instagram equals an enviable lifestyle.

An abuser will be an abuser whether they are on a tropical island, living in a mansion or living in a tent. One thing Covid/recent programmes like ‘Extinction’ have taught me is that a successful lifestyle is not about glamour/luxury/celebrity/fast cars. It’s about family/people that I care about/minimising my impact on the environment/community/selflessness/living with what I need and not what I want.

@picklemewalnuts

They took themselves with them. They will still make the same mistakes, just near sand and palm trees.

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On the bright side,they are now on an entirely different island to you. Hopefully that means you'll never need to see them again.

I don't believe in karma unfortunately. Good shit happens to bad folk all the time. But I like to think they'll be judged at their end. It might be hot on an island but I'm sure its hotter in hell haha.

I was reading an article about how dark triad traits are less easy to spot at night (dunno why, maybe subtle face ques that we should pick up as 'predatorial' are easier to miss in the dark). With there being longer days out there, hopefully itll be easier for ppl to see what the dark hearted thing really is.

Well staged photos can hide the reality of living abroad.
I live in a sunny place with palm trees but I still have to work and do all the things I would in UK, just in better weather.

Try not to give it too much head space, he took his twattery with him.