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Surprise lesbian crush on colleague

8 replies

biscuitcakes · 05/10/2020 21:25

As the title says really. Really fancy a colleague at work and it's made me realise I'm a bit bisexual! Have been in a long term relationship since early 20s (married with kids now) and didn't fancy girls in my teens. Feel overwhelmed with the desire to experience this and constantly fantasising about it. Looking back over the last few years I've had crushes on a few girls and thought all women did. This is the first one that's overtly sexual. A couple weeks ago she confided in me she was with a woman for 2 years even though now she's in a serious relationship with a guy. Help!

OP posts:
category12 · 05/10/2020 21:38

What would you do if you had a crush on a bloke? You're in a relationship.

1smallhamsterfoot · 05/10/2020 21:41

Be faithful?

biscuitcakes · 05/10/2020 22:10

Of course!!! Was looking for advice to get over it and from people who had been through it! Stand down!

OP posts:
Elsiebear90 · 05/10/2020 22:16

Do you think she has a crush on you too? The way I see it is you have three options, either try and forget about it (not sure realistically how easy that will be), tell your husband about it and see if he would be open to you experimenting or realise your marriage is not fulfilling you any more and you need to end things to explore your sexuality.

LionelMessy · 06/10/2020 00:40

Wait til work nights are allowed again and see if you snog?

Be kind to OP as she just wanting opinions.

onemorecupofcoffeefortheroad · 06/10/2020 01:58

It's not that uncommon - slightly different circumstances but it happened to me 15 years ago when I was 40 and I'm now married to the object of my overwhelming crush.

user1481840227 · 06/10/2020 02:54

@LionelMessy

Wait til work nights are allowed again and see if you snog?

Be kind to OP as she just wanting opinions.

She's married! Of course she shouldn't wait for a work night out and see if they snog Confused
hexmeginny · 06/10/2020 06:46

Nip it in the bud like you would with any crush. You're both involved. Entertaining any of this is going to cause a huge mess.

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