Husband pushed me twisted it onto me

[Autumnblues2020]

Husband pushed a door into me with 3 toddlers in the house on Saturday, he has this rage which sometimes comes out in terms of shouting swearing but is usually fine.
Twisted it to say it’s my fault as I shouted at him to hurry up and get ready - I did this.
He then left all weekend no word and has gone to work without saying anything today. Ignored my calls last night.
He also said he doesn’t know what he was thinking marrying me and I should find a new man who will put up with the shit.
It will be twisted into me causing the reaction due to bursting in and shouting and no apology.
I think I want him to go now as he’s done this a handful of times before.
Feel sad about being alone with toddlers and especially with covid :(

He sounds like my ex husband. you dont want your children to grow up and have no respect for you because of what they've seen. like my children.

Get out now. It was a door pushed onto you this time with no damage but thus behaviour will escalate (as it has already done from rages that are fine 🤔). What will he do next time. Get those kids away from him, good luck xxx

Autumn I’m sorry you are experiencing this. Please contact women’s aid for support and advice.
I would actually suggest you call the police either now or when he does it again. I say this as it can be away of getting him out permanently as if there is enough evidence as you can get a restraining order so he cannot come to the property.
If you report him now there will be evidence.
You can apply for a restraining order yourself. I forget who through but woman’s aid will guide you.
There is a free book down load by Lundy Bancroft “Why does he do that”
Please know and recognise that abusive men are not “out of control” when they are violent - They are totally “in control” and use violence to “shut you up”
I saw my 3 year old run upstairs and hide once when my ex was being hostile.
Children suffer greatly and so are you.
I hope you have some real life support to share this with. Abuse thrives on secrecy. Please please let someone know - you will have a GP, health visitor, family and friends.
IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT -
The question to ask also is “Does he treat anyone else like this?”
It is not acceptable at all. 🌺

Wow he left! Change the locks and pack up his stuff. Quick