Was he coming on to me or am I reading too much into it?

[CringeInwardly]

I'm in a new job, somebody else who works there came over to introduce himself and chat to me today. We work on the same floor but do different jobs.

Polite introduction, spoke about work for a minute or so then went back to what it was we were doing.

He sought me out again later on for a chat on my break, general talk about how miserable the weather is etc. I mentioned how I would usually cycle in but opted not to due to the rain. He said he cycles too and how if it weren't for the weather he would join me on a ride.

He then asked if I was married, after I said no he dropped in to the conversation that he was single.

He was definitely coming on to me wasn't he?

I'm in my 20's and he's about 50.

Sadly, I used to work with a man in his 50s who thought he was very attractive to younger women. He didn't look in his 50s I have to say, but everyone laughed at him behind his back. Fortunately his reputation went before him and so nobody fell for his chat up lines. I used to find it quite distasteful the way he would talk about these young women to anyone who would listen. I was quite happy to tell him how lecherous it made him seem.

In your position Cringe, I would tactfully ask around - I bet you will find he'll try his chat up lines on any female newcomer.

I wouldn't bother- it's giving him too much importance. Focus on enjoying your new job.

It is a bit weird being a middle aged man in his 50s, thinking he has a chance with a young lady in her 20s. Not sure where these twats get their unwarranted confidence from.

The age thing isn’t what strikes me most, tbh, it’s that a total stranger you’ve literally just met in a new job proposes joining you for a bike ride and asks if you’re married after approximately a minute of chat about the weather.

I mean, even if the new colleague was female, I would see that as pretty presumptuous.

The speed of the interaction and his age indicate that he's a player. That type aren't worried about the risk of rejection - its a numbers game. If 1 out of 10 says yes, that's a success.

That type also ask you if you're married, rather than if you're single. Because in their minds, all women are split into two types - married or non married. They don't actually care whether you're single...

I do agree it's inappropriate and creepy. I also suspect PP's are right that he probably makes a habit of doing it.

I've had interaction with several male members of staff and he's the only one who has come out with anything like that.

He probably had kids my age. Shudder.