Has my friendship ended?

[Badger2033]

Hi,

Please excuse the lack of detail in places as I don’t want this to be too outing.

I met with a very good friend today ( over 15 years we’ve been friends since school ). We went for a coffee. I had a really shit time and I’m trying to make sense of it. In the end I just made my excuses and left.

Basically the whole time we were there she just talked at me about her job, her weekend activities, her relationship and so on. Some pretty big stuff has happened in my life - for example I brought a house this week and she didn’t ask me a single question or show any interest. No congrats on the house, didn’t ask to see any pictures, didn’t ask me about DS or DP, nothing.

This is now not a one off. We last met up when my DS was three months old. Similar situation and similar issue. However I presumed that I was just bad company and not as conversational as normal. I was trying to settle my crying over tired baby, breastfeed in public and yadda yadda yadda. Now he’s 10 months and we’re well versed in being out and about and tbh he’s chilled and he easy. He was eating baby snacks and waving at people coming and going.

I don’t really want to lose this friendship and it’s important to me but perhaps our lives are just so different now we don’t get along so well? Maybe my life is super boring to her?

She does not have DC and is the same age as me.

Am I being a princess? What can I do to fix this this? Should I say something or just let it fizzle our?

She isn’t your friend, she just wants an audience.

Instead of talking to a brick wall, she figured your are a better option.

I have a friend like this. I can surf the net, watch a tv show, read a book and she wouldn’t know the difference. And if I try to interject with something she will cut me off and bring up another subject.

She’s not a real friend.

Try meeting her without your son in tow. Whilst it does sound as though she made it all about her, I wouldn't mind betting that you spent a fair amount of time communicating with the baby. No criticism - of course a little one needs attention, encouragement, eye contact, etc but your friend may have seen this as you making it all about you!