Earlier today I was facetiming my mum with ds4, for context my mum has just been diagnosed with cancer last week so I really wanted to listen to her. Ds got a bit over excited and was running around shouting and interrupting so I asked DH if he could supervise him for a few minutes whilst I was on the phone. Dh was doing some non urgent paperwork in his office. Dh didn’t supervise him, I asked him several more times but he ignored me. I shut myself into the utility room. Finished my call and 10 seconds later I hear screaming and crying, run out to see ds with blood streaming from his nose and mouth having fallen up the stairs trying to carry a laundry basket upstairs. Dh hand him over, Obviously I have to sort it all out, dh goes back to paperwork, I do the cuddles, clean the blood, check his nose wasn’t broken ( was ok luckily), apply frozen peas etc. 30 minutes later he calmed down. Told dh I’m cross with him for not supervising ds, his response, he doesn’t need supervising and he won’t learn unless things like this happen. I think he should have said sorry but he would never do that.
I brought the frozen peas wrapped in teatowel downstairs later and left it on the kitchen counter. Dh picks it up and drops the peas all over the floor, he was huffing and puffing, sighing “Why hadn’t I thought about it, I could have put them in the bin” etc and now he’s pissed of with me and moody.
What is going on here? Is it really my responsibility to make sure he doesn’t drop peas on the floor? I feel like whatever happens in this house it’ll always be my fault. Sometimes it feels confusing and don’t know whether I’m right or wrong these days.
Sorry it’s so long, well done if you read the whole thing.