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Relationships with siblings exes

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NC4NW123 · 04/10/2020 15:55

Following on from another thread just wondering what is the general consensus, would you date your siblings ex or someone they’d been intimate with? A best friends ex? Where do you draw the line or is it a case of, you love who you love no matter what?

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Sunflower1970 · 04/10/2020 19:06

I’m find it very worrying that you even have to ask the question !!!!!

AnneLovesGilbert · 04/10/2020 19:07

No. No. No. Obviously not. Find someone else.

firesong · 04/10/2020 19:33

No, I can't see myself with my sister's ex. However, it really depends! If we are talking about an ex from 20 years ago and my sister had no problem with it, then why not? Would feel a bit weird though!

I've dated the ex of a friend, a very very long ago ex and the friend and I had become distant (just naturally, as we live far apart) and that hasn't caused a problem.

But if we are talking dating a recent ex, or one who caused misery to a friend or sibling... no.

DioneTheDiabolist · 04/10/2020 19:36

No way would I date any of my sisters' Exes, that would be weird.

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NC4NW123 · 04/10/2020 19:58

@Sunflower1970 🤣 don’t be. I am very rigid in my beliefs and I personally wouldn’t EVER go there, I just wondered as a few on another thread seemed to think it’s fine.

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widespreadpanic · 04/10/2020 20:20

My code is not to date our friends exes so I’m sure as heck not going to date my sisters ex. Luckily we don’t have the same taste in me 😂

Angrymum22 · 04/10/2020 20:49

I had a very brief relationship with my DH’s DB. He spent 12 months pursuing me but it was a case of preferring the thrill of the chase and it soon fizzled out when I eventually caved. DH was much more of a slow burner. We were all part of a big social group and we were friends before anything happened. DH has a difficult family dynamic and I definitely ended up with the right brother.
It was a bit weird initially but we got over it. In our younger days we used to be close socially with DB and his girlfriend. But everything changed when they split up, Dbil’s wife obviously knows and I don’t think she has ever been comfortable with it, unlike the rest of the family.
Their younger brother admitted to me that he’d also fancied me some years ago. I think I was just their type. I’m nothing special and I’m not a flirt ( flirting always got me into trouble) I think men just find me easy to talk to.

RantyAnty · 04/10/2020 20:58

No no no
I know they're not really but I've mentally always put those types in the incest category which grosses me out so much, I'd never go there.

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