Left with baby

[Hopefulmama123]

would love to hear some stories of hope from people who were left by their partners with a young babies.

My partner left when the baby was 12 weeks old due to MH reasons. I have emplored with him to get help and try and work through things together but he just doesn't seem to want this life anymore. He has completely done a 180 on me. This baby was 100% planned and I thought we were very happy.

Did you go on to meet the love of your life? Or learnt to be happy on your own?

Sorry if I sound quite pathetic, I know I will be happy again one day and I am very very lucky to have my little girl. Just still in the middle of the storm.

Thank you

Mine weren't babies, my youngest was two. But you absolutely can and will be happy again, whether that's alone or with a new partner.

When you are in the middle of the emotional storm it can feel as though life is over. But when the dust settles and a little bit of time has passed you will find yourself, one day, taking a deep breath and thinking 'yes, I'm happy'.

Honestly. Just hang on in there.

After 6.5years of Marriage and our son was 4months old I was told by ExH that he didn't love me and didn't want to be a family! It took me about 18mths to really recover from the pain. When my DS was 5.5 yrs I met a great bloke who loves me and my son. We have a DD together and 7.5yrs later are very happy. My Ex however is twice divorced now.
It does get better OP just takes time, strength and patience! 💐

Thank you for your replies! They have cheered me up. 18 months, that is good to have a time frame in mind (I know everyone is different).

It seems to make it so much harder that I keep having to see him because of the baby.

I seem to feel a little more normal and then when I see him I'm so low again for a couple of days.

Sorry you are in this situation OP.

My ex left me with an 8 week old, minimal contact and no maintenance, so no emotional or financial help. I was also alone as my family all live abroad. It was tough, especially when the baby was going through difficult phases like sleep regressions. But I got through it. My DD is an absolute superstar. We have an amazing relationship and we really get each other. She also now has a reasonably good relationship with my ex. He met someone nice and settled down so she has some stability there.

I was alone for 3 years. Focused on getting promoted at work so I could make ends meet and on my DD. And as you say I learnt to be strong and happy. Then I went in my first date and he turned out to be a keeper. We have now been together for 6 years and have a young toddler. I am the happiest I have ever been.

I hope things work out for the best for you!

My partner walked out on our marriage when I had a three week old and 4 year old. I've always worked full time which has killed me at times physically and mentally - I've missed so many school performances because I had to work but 20 years on I own my own home and are much happier without him

It's been hard but I'm so glad he left, it wasn't till he went I realised what a nasty person he was.

@Dogsandbabies

Sorry you are in this situation OP.

My ex left me with an 8 week old, minimal contact and no maintenance, so no emotional or financial help. I was also alone as my family all live abroad. It was tough, especially when the baby was going through difficult phases like sleep regressions. But I got through it. My DD is an absolute superstar. We have an amazing relationship and we really get each other. She also now has a reasonably good relationship with my ex. He met someone nice and settled down so she has some stability there.

I was alone for 3 years. Focused on getting promoted at work so I could make ends meet and on my DD. And as you say I learnt to be strong and happy. Then I went in my first date and he turned out to be a keeper. We have now been together for 6 years and have a young toddler. I am the happiest I have ever been.

I hope things work out for the best for you!

Ah thank you so much. That must have been so so hard for you, I'm so please everything worked out. You sound amazing so that is what you truly deserved. I'm glad you are happy.

I read that and just think how strong and brave you must have been.

My mind knows that we cannot be around someone who is currently so unstable, I just wish my heart would catch up, I still love him.

I have started counselling to try and help process it all.

@Ancara

My partner walked out on our marriage when I had a three week old and 4 year old. I've always worked full time which has killed me at times physically and mentally - I've missed so many school performances because I had to work but 20 years on I own my own home and are much happier without him

It's been hard but I'm so glad he left, it wasn't till he went I realised what a nasty person he was.

Thank you for sharing your story. My mum was in a similar situation with me and I always saw how hard she worked - I have so much respect for her as I'm sure your children do to you, I think in time I will be happy. I just feel this massive void in my life right now.

Cliche but he is the one missing out right now, we have a beautiful daughter and a lovely home.

The sad thing is even he didn't want this to happen. But he somehow he can't see a way back xxxx

@Zaphodsotherhead

Mine weren't babies, my youngest was two. But you absolutely can and will be happy again, whether that's alone or with a new partner.

When you are in the middle of the emotional storm it can feel as though life is over. But when the dust settles and a little bit of time has passed you will find yourself, one day, taking a deep breath and thinking 'yes, I'm happy'.

Honestly. Just hang on in there.

Thank you for your kind words xxx

I did the leaving. I was on my own for about a three years and then met my lovely dh.