Long term friend, pretty much always there if I need her and I’m there for her too.
I’ve always known that we had a wildly different perception of wealth and a different financial upbringing...a year into our friendship she said that her sister had married into a very very wealthy family as her brother in law’s parents owned a 300k house...this was said with a sense of awe and as it it was something that she could only have as a pipe dream. I know wealth is all relative but I remember thinking she must have very limited views of what she can attain if that is deemed out of reach to her. There’s been other things such as her saying that 40k was a huge amount to earn in a year and she’d say well obviously I will never earn that it’s just crazy money...there’s been lots of instances where she will pick out something that someone owns (for instance my sister has a smeg fridge) and she would go on and on about how this fridge must mean they are absolutely minted hmm it’s all a bit strange and seems to have a superficial view of what having money actually means. Lots of people with fancy kettles and toasters aren’t rolling in it!!
I was brought up to believe money isn’t something you talk about...And now I wonder if this has caused an issue in our friendship. I never told her how much my house was worth and it only recently came to light when I sold it for 380k. Similarly, all the times she was amazed by people who earn 40k, I didn’t say anything and I guess implied I thought it unattainable, despite the fact I have been earning close to double that for a while now. Maybe she feels like I’ve lied to her but I wasn’t exactly going to start chatting about money when she never seems to have much of it.
When I sold my house recently she made comments like ‘I would have thought it was quite cheap where you are..’ and then when I sold it, she said she was surprised it had sold 
When I bought a new car a few weeks ago, she came over and I was actually nervous about her seeing it that I nearly moved it off the drive. As predicted she said in a jokey way ‘are you having a mid life crisis..’
We are both 34 and have known each other since we were 21. I feel like we have always had a different perception of money but what is frustrating is that she goes from admin job to admin job and then complains that other people can afford things and she can’t. She has a masters degree and could be paid more if she tried. Don’t get me wrong...nothing wrong with an admin role but if you are going to complain about money then do something about it!! It’s never bothered me until recently and I have started to feel like she doesn’t want to share milestones in my life anyone, or if she does it is to put me down.
I was promoted last week at work and I feel embarrassed bringing it up - I know you don’t need to tell friends everything but the dynamics of our friendship seem to have changed since I’ve progressed with these things.
I don’t know what to make of it all and after many years of a lovely friendship, I feel like we are on such different pages and she seems to dislike people who are in my financial circumstance, yet she is on the surface friends with me. So often she will make comments about people who have a certain amount of income, in a really derogatory way, and it is becoming more and more awkward and I feel more and more defensive as I’ve worked for this, it’s not like I have sat back for the last 10 years doing nothinh.
Has anyone else been in this situation and it resolved itself?