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Narcissist - nearly free, life afterwards

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Christmashappy · 03/10/2020 18:48

hi everyone
I have posted on here a few times.
I am.almost free from him and have come on for the much needed boost.
4 years of mental abuse takes its toll but I am finally seeing that I can get out of this and feel okay.
What is everyone's experience of life after the relationship with a narc x

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wildthingsinthenight · 03/10/2020 23:32

Lots of luck OP. I really hope you are close to getting out and being free. And I hope it is soon!
No experience but wanted to send my best wishes Flowers

Christmashappy · 04/10/2020 00:11

@wildthingsinthenight
Thank you so much.
I am very close, it has been an experience.
Thanks for the support xx

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SoulofanAggron · 04/10/2020 01:38

Well done for getting this far, please keep going. xxx Reach out for anything that could help you in any way.

My 'ex' had some narc traits. He was a 'FWB' but it became nasty.

There are two main things I've felt :-

The utter freedom and relaxation I feel from not being sexually coerced anymore and constantly nagged and put on the spot.

The realization that I'm not as barking as I thought. Yes, I do have issues around rejection but I really thought I was verging on unhinged about it in general. Turns out it was the constant fear of rejection by this particular person, as he had in the past, that made me far more concerned about the issue than I naturally was.

Once I blocked him on everything I was empowered, safe, and free.

Obviously my situation isn't like that of women who are living with a narc or whatever, but that to me is what it was like.

You do not have to work your way around their demands of any kind, or give in to them anymore.

It's great! Go for it and please let us know how you get on. Flowers

Christmashappy · 05/10/2020 10:26

@SoulofanAggron
Thanks so much for your comments.
I feel quite alone in this, everyone already thinks that we have split up and they are glad so I feel quite lonely.
I have this overwhelming fear he ends up with someone else.
It is so silly as I don't even think I am interested in him any more.
Its such a horrible mix of emotions.
How long was it until you felt happier xxx

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