How long did you think about leaving before you did?

[Itwasgoodwhileitlasted]

It is a monthly occurrence here and I have started saving to leave. (Secretly)

No affection, no sex, fed up with him not putting anything away, being completely forgetful when he chooses to take on extra work. Physical hygiene below my standards.

We rarely argue but I feel like he is bad for my health. I dont have a room to relax in because of his stuff everywhere...cables, computers, books. And we rarely talk about anything other than the kids because he tends to just rant at me.

Sigh. He has just come through the door. To be honest, sometimes I wish he would just leave me.

With my exh, I think it was about about 4 years.

Only a few weeks in with a guy I dated at the beginning of this year, although he ghosted me first, like a coward. I called him up and read him the riot act for lovebombing me.

Recently, with someone I was sort of testing the waters with and it became apparent it was toxic, I left him gradually.

Best decision I've ever made too. No more rants and no more of his shit everywhere. Bliss.

I find this topic so hard.

I am thinking of giving Hubby another year and if things don’t improve then I can’t continue to live like we are lodgers.

We both have depression, however I am receiving treatment for mine. He refuses to see dr. He self medicates with weed. I know most people will say, oh he’s a stoner leave him, and maybe I should. As it certainly comes before me.

However I feel like I’m failing him by not accepting who he is. I also think I am not good in a relationship. I don’t like the responsibility of someone else’s wellbeing deteriorating due to me.

I used to support people with depression and know all the theories to apply. But when that person isn’t willing to help themselves, no one else can make them. 😌

From the moment I realised the relationship was over, and the direction we were going wasn't what i wanted? 6 months, of trying, but my heart not really in it. However, looking back, i think I had consciously been unhappy for about three months before then, and there there had been moments where I'd thought about ending it for going on a decade.

I have to say - it was awful, and I felt terrible for smushing his heart into tiny pieces (he wasn't abusive...just not always a great partner, but then I'm not easy either) - but it was the best decision I ever made. I've completely changed my life, and feel so, so free. Not from him, specifically, but just in my life in general. I haven't regretted it for one second.