Not having sex and we never kiss but to embarrassed to bring it up with husband

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I am currently 24 weeks pregnant and me and my husband don't have sex and or even kiss the only affection i get off him is hugs when we are in bed. To be honest looking back even before i got pregnant we never did it alot and hardly kissed. We were never like this when we first started dating it just all seem to have fizzled out when we got married (two years ago). I beginning to feel frustrated and bored and there is nothing exciting in our relationship but dont know how to bring it up with my husband. I know i need to as i cant go on like this. Any advice is appreciated? Not sure he fancies me as he never compliment me. I have gotten bigger since we got married but i just feel like we are friends more than anything. Help!

The only advice is to talk to him about it

You got married and procreated and still you are too embarrassed to talk? That's on you as much as him. How weird to be that way - unless arranged marriage with cultural considerationas.
I was so up for it when pregnant, sex was fab.
Sounds like he hooked you by marriage, then doesn't feel a need to try since. Did you date long before? I'd guess he learnt this from seeing it growing up, not much love between his parents? The only answer is to bite the bullet and ask him.

One of my ex’s was like this. Not affectionate, rarely kissed me, and never complimented me. I always felt like he didn’t love me cause how can you NOT want to hug, touch, compliment and kiss the person you’re in love with, right? But he just wasn’t that way with me. However he would fix my car, fix something broken in my house, etc whenever I needed it. His way of showing love was “doing” for me. Unfortunately it just wasn’t enough for me as I don’t feel loved without affection.

Maybe your dh shows his love in different ways. If not definitely talk to him about it.

I understand how you feel and it's very valid, but leaving at 24 weeks pregnant is shocking timing. A baby can really bond you, and your hormones will be all over the place over the coming months. Why not focus on your baby and see what happens after the baby is born. I think you owe it to your baby to try (and if nothing else, you'll need the aupport with a new baby). Your whole world will change when the baby is born, it may change your outlook and relationship

Is it possible that he is 'afraid' to have sex with you now you are pregnant.. some men get it in their head that it might be harmful to the baby..

He might be being ultra respectful and waiting for you to take the lead.. have you tried to make the first move ?

OP - as PP have said - you can’t be married and pregnant by a man yet be unable to talk to him about things. You’ve made the hugest imaginable commitment to each other. You have to be able to talk. Tell him how you’re feeling. See what he says. Take it from there.

Totally get you. 10 year with DP and no kisses, no emotion at all. No how are you. Comfort if I am upset nothing. Wtf am in doing here.

Soooo! I did bite the bullet and ask my husband. And surprisingly he thinks the same as me l. For instance he thinks i could be more affectionate etc. As for not having sex he said it's because im pregnant i did mention that even before i got pregnant we hardly did it. But looking back and i admitted this to him, the majority of the time i did always wait for him to initiate it. So its on my part too!! We both agreed that we both need to be more affectionate he did say he doesnt think lockdown has helped as as we're together all the time and i kind of agree with this. But we will have to see how we get on. I reminded him of how we both were when we first met and asked him to take the lead on decisions such as going out to eat etc. I always plan things and he always agrees but I explained that it would be nice if he initiated a decision. Lets see how we get on. Thanks everyone!

@widespreadpanic my husband is exactly like this. He's not the best at comforting me but shows me his affection in ways i don't need like practical things.

I have hope for this relationship. Neither of you are mind readers xxxx