Hey
I very recently left my husband. He said he didn’t expect it although I did leave him last year then agreed to marriage counselling (which never happened) and I “fell back” into the marriage. I found it really hard to do it a second time but this time I have said it’s my final decision, I’m happy with my decision and that’s it, I’m done.
He has caused me many years of upset due to his rages and nasty tongue, he wasn’t like it all the time but they way he acted towards me in these rages and the kids has naturally pushed me away and I was no longer happy in the marriage. There were other issues as well.
His family know all too well of his anger issues and even warned him in the early years that he will have to stop this or I will go, his old employer referred him to anger management, so it’s not an unknown thing.
Anyway fast forward to now and because I have eventually left him I am the bad guy because I won’t consider counselling etc. I just feel defeated right now, I felt empowered at first because I knew I didn’t have to put up with the shit but now I just feel mentally exhausted. His family and work colleagues just think I’m a cold hearted bitch but no one was there all those years I was heartbroken at the way he treated me and the kids it just pisses me off but I’m not the kind of person to be like...actually you know what!
I don’t know what I want from this, maybe someone to tell me I did the right thing, I dunno.
He can’t understand why I can’t carry on how I was, but why should I, I want to be happy and have the chance at finding someone and being truely happy
Xx