What are the signs you’re not compatible?

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Struggling to work out if I’m truly compatible with my partner. What are the signs you’re not compatible?

*Shit sex
*Conflicting long term goals
*Conflicting character traits
*Boredom
*Repeated unresolved/inconclusive arguments

If one or both of you needs to compromise more than you're comfortable with. Or if neither of you is able to compromise on an issue that is important to one or both of you. You can brush this under the carpet in the honeymoon phase but it will come back to bite you.

There are loads... it depends on you and the person you're in a relationship with though, what makes you both happy

bad sex, limited topics of substance to talk about together, very different views on relationships (possibly cultural) and unwillingness of both to compromise

Struggling to work out if I’m truly compatible with my partner. What are the signs you’re not compatible?

Struggling to work out if you are truly compatible with your partner is a sign.

Feeling confused, unsettled, disappointed, flat, slightly agitated......subtle gut stuff enough. It is the smoke alarm to tell you to act - you can just leave the building or try to find the source of the fire. You might get burnt, you might never locate it or you might find it and put it out - or it might be a false alarm!

Trust your gut on this one.
If you're having to ask, the likelihood is you're worried you aren't. This us not a question you ask yourself if you truly are compatible with someone.

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*Shit sex
*Conflicting long term goals
*Conflicting character traits
*Boredom
*Repeated unresolved/inconclusive arguments'

Just separated from my partner after 6 years (and a DS) and this is absolutely it. No hatred or anger towards the other, just not compatible in the long term.

There are several levels of compatibility, although the full list of being incompatible will not reveal itself until you Have been married for 30 years
You may both be different people by then

Does incompatibility grow?

So:

*Conflicting long term goals
*Conflicting character traits

Leads in time to:

*Shit sex
*Boredom
*Repeated unresolved/inconclusive arguments'

I also think that there is a deeper emotional core - a “knowing” - a feeling - do you treat each other and others with a similar level of kindness and respect. These are basic values that need to be aligned I think.

Going on mumsnet and asking "What are the signs your not compatible."