We are not alone in not having help with our kids. I'll start with that, as I know tons of people have no free childcare. But I want to start here to explain. I am with someone who has a heart of gold. He is a great dad to our two children. Before our children we'd do what young people without kids do. We'd go to the cinema. Weekends away. The beach. Get drunk. Have takeaways and meet with friends. We had a normal sex life and all was great.
When I was pregnant with my child six years ago I fully expected we'd spend alot of time with our families. His parents were half an hour away. Mine lived locally. I thought we'd do Sunday dinners and days out with the grandparents. I thought we would sometimes drop our daughter of at dh parents as they live near a city. Then occasionally we would go to shop or on a little date to the cinema. Just random outings sometimes. But my partner's sister had a child two months before us. His parents choose to move 90 minutes away to be with her. They barely see us. My parents just didn't get into being involved. We've accepted it. But it does mean we can't have any time as a couple. Which before anyone suggests babysitters, it's not something I've seen locally and I'm not comfortable with it anyway. In 5 years we've had 5 afternoons in total childfree. 2 we were decorating. We are literally just mum and dad. Us as a pair do not exist. We don't even have sex anymore. We fall asleep seperately. Yet we get on like friends still. Partner says we will get it back as the kids get older. I feel it's gone beyond that.
It must have got bad because I've spent the last two weeks considering meeting up with another man if the opportunity arises. Which it hasn't yet. But there's a tiny chance someone else is interested in me. This tiny chance which unlikely will ever become anything has completely messed my head up. Because I never wanted to catch feelings for anyone else. I wasn't looking. I don't particularly find this bloke attractive. But he's lovely. He is painting my friends house and I see her most days after the school run,we've really clicked conversation wise. I can feel him looking at me and my friend said she can tell he likes me.
I can tell I'm playing with fire. I shouldn't be flirting. I shouldn't be willing to take another man's number if it's offered. But I'm really missing having a connection with a man.
I want to have fun again.
Has anyone else felt like this