I've ruined everything and don't know what to do?

[Flowerpower39]

An ex lover from many years ago got in touch with me a few months ago, it brought up all the old feelings for me. Recently he started ignoring me and I have been upset and asking him why. He didn't tell me specifics he just said he was having a hard time mentally and it was nothing to do with me but of course i kept poking the bear thinking it really was me and feeling confused. He finally has angrily told me its because a certain close family member is seriously unwell and that I keep making it about me. I feel terrible and he has now blocked me. If he had told me what was going on to start with instead of just ignoring me I'd have acted more rationally. Now I'm worried I'll never hear from him again. I'm gutted and i don't know what to do. Help!

He didn’t owe you any explanation. He’s an ex that you were talking to again. You’re not his girlfriend.

If I got chatting to an ex again and he started sending me “upset” messages because I wouldn’t discuss a private matter I’d block him too.

And if I posted on here about it nobody would be on his side, I can promise you that!

To be honest op it does read like you weren’t in a relationship with him, just you wanted one, and you were only chatting, then when he wasn’t responding, then told you why, you didn’t accept it snd sent him a load of “upset “ messages, which has resulted in him blocking you.

If this is the case, then he’s right to have done so. I’d have done the same

Thank you for all the views. I really don't blame him for anything, im not wanting people to pick I am upset, our relationship status had been discussed before all this and we were on the same page but covid and geography hadn't made it easy. I guess there's nothing I can do but get over it.

• I meant to say pick sides