Innocent Messaging?

[Flapjackninja]

After some advice found some messages on my partner's phone which are pretty much chit chat about a hobby him and this other women have.

However one or two of these messages seem to be flirty, maybe testing the waters to see what reaction they get? Also the women has "accidentally" sent a kissing emoji then made several other comments about it "oh look what I've done", "silly me" etc

Can't decide if I'm over reacting to say something now when it could easily be explained away. Or if I should see how it pans out kinda feel like I'm leaving things to progress between them by not saying something now. But also worry he could hide it more in the future if I say something now.

Just to clarify they have not met in real life, we are not local to the women, she doesn't know his name/age/face etc in real life.

Have you already posted about this this week? Has something changed?

Nope never posted about this before only read the messages today.

How does your dh reply to her? is he flirty or ignoring it?

I would ha e a general conversation with him in.
I was reading a thread on the internet about a married man sending.flirty texts to a.women...

I love you so much, I'm not sure I could forgive a EA or affair it would be a deal breaker for me....What about you?

I wouldn't say anything yet. Just keep an eye out. You don't accidentally send a kissing emoji to another man. She seems a bit dodgy to me but have you seen any of his responses to the messages? Maybe he's not engaging with her? Trust your instincts. If something doesn't feel right to you then it probably isn't x

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest. Most women I know sign off with kisses to my other half and there's absolutely no ulterior motive of sign for concern.
Why are you looking on his phone?

The messages are only going back a few days that I can see. To fill in some points the hobby is cycling and they are messaging over Instagram.

With the accidental love heart emoji my partner just sent a laughing face emoji in return.

Don't know what makes me uneasy about it. I'd say 90% of the messages are morning, what you up to today, how's work, going on any rides this week, what's for tea etc.. With the odd suspect message for example she lives in a picturesque places so said if your ever in the area stop by for a cuppa I'll give you a tour etc.. partner answered that would be nice. Partner posted pictures of new crash helmet with an innuendo about his shiny helmet.

This is ripe for an EA at the very least. She's fishing to see if he's interested. The banter about his shiney helmet suggests he's open to it as well.

Partner posted pictures of new crash helmet with an innuendo about his shiny helmet.

I wouldn't be ok with that. He's flirting with another woman. If that makes you feel hurt, as it would most people, then you need to tell him that.

He wouldn't be spending time messaging his woman if he wasnt interested. You know your self, you only message someone back if your interested or invested somehow.

I'd say you've got good reason to feel uneasy.

I think you have reason to feel suspicious. Keep an eye on it.

I would confront him with the messages and ask for an explanation. Wether or not it just makes him more careful in future doesn't matter. He's on the cusp of an EA at least and you deserve all or nothing from him.

I would not believe for one second that was innocent.

They are both testing the waters and it's really on the verge of becoming an EA.