I think ex made fake fb account?

[Limeandlemon]

A couple of weeks ago I got a friend request from someone I know. I accepted.
Me and ex split up dec last year, we work in the same building but not with each other so I see him everyday but don’t speak to him. He still had feelings for ex wife and I was feeling used and on a string so I ended it. He showed no emotion really and quietly got on with it. I was devastated and I’ve only just got over it.
So last night I got a message from this ‘friend’ I know...it says how are you doing? Which I thought was weird and we don’t really speak that much. I checked out the profile and there is no profile pic, only a few friends on it and no posts or info. I checked my fb and this persons actual Facebook is still running and active, lots of friends photos etc. I checked the birthday details and the suspect fake profile has a different birthday. My ex birthday is 20 Oct and the account was 20 aug.
I have no idea if this is ex but I blocked it and reported. I feel like I’ve been watched for a couple of weeks.

It’s stirred up a lot of old feelings. Found ex tries to avoid me at work now but today he was seeming to bring himself closer hanging around more, could be over thinking it though. But Part of me thinks he misses me, is struggling to do this and my ego so wants him to pine over me and tell me he misses me

But the new me thinks have some self respect and see him as a total wanker wanting some control over you wanting to look into your life and not having the balls to speak to me.
I’m being stupid but I feel mixed up now. I was doing so well.
Of course it could be anyone making this account up and spying. Can’t think who would but could be a total stranger.
What do you think? And knock some sense into me

In an identical situation right now!! My ex keeps adding me on fb under different family members. Has to be him. We only broke it off 6 months ago tho. My feelings for him are still so raw. But like you said common sense and self respect is so highly needed. I have only just picked up the pieces and got a little self respect for myself but I enjoy the crawling - that's why I got back with him on so many occasions. But I'm determined this time to block block block & block. No way will I go back to that life of misery. Don't encourage or entertain anything. What kind of freak takes time out of their day to create fake accounts to spy & perv on exes and who knows what else. So sad. Says it all really

I know @unknownn I said to myself what would be the logical thing to do here and what would a woman with self respect do, and that’s block...I was so tempted to play dumb and go along with it and message back just to see what was said and part of me wants him to see what I’m doing because my ego wants him to care and miss me...when we split he just seemed not to care, didn’t fight for me, nothing. So if it is him making up fake accounts then that smells of desperation which I kinda want him to be...but that’s just my bruised ego talking.
Funny enough I set my fb to private completely, around the time I got the friend request. I used to publicly post my stories but not now because I realised it was all to do with seeking his validation.

That's got to be your ex. Clearly he's been watching your open profile for a while & as soon as it's now been made private, he needs a fake account to access it. Wait & see if he creates another fake account now you have blocked this one. That's what my ex did . Must be difficult when you probably wanted him to give you attention when he broke up with you initially! Don't give him anything to boost his ego. Revenge is with you being happy - and you don't need to entertain him to prove this to him.

I used to entertain all sorts of stupid things after our breakups with no intention of getting back with him at all. Yet somehow we always ended up together. Completely cold turkey - no contact whatsoever is my only option when this vulnerable

Think of it this way op,but is creepy as fuck. It shows an element of wanting to control and manipulate you. And using some other innocent person in order to do so as well. What would have happened if you had spoken assuming it was her, I wonder? He would have had to stalk her as well, to add to the lie in order to further manipulate you.

It is incidious. I'd be on your guard for more tactics like this from him. And yes, i think it is him. I think you instinctively know it.

You walked away from him and stopped him seeing your posts - and he clearly doesnt think you have the right to do that. And he thinks you are stupid too.

Be on your guard. And well done for not being drawn in to his little plan!

*it is creepy as fuck