I'm not sure where to even start....
I'm uncertain where things are between me and my partner. Hes similar to myself, he works very hard and does everything to the best of his ability to do well at his job - which is how hes gotten to be quite high in his company. The issue is that he prioritises his job, it's always first. I understand that his job is stressful... however its everywhere. Hes not eating properly at work, he is putting way too much pressure on himself, hes bringing work home with him, it's always on his mind and he says he cant switch off, hes even working when our child comes home from nursery and so he doesn't spend that much time with him 
, I have asked if he can spend a little time with him before he goes to bed, but it doesnt last very long. I do really feel for him, for how much stress he is under but his job is forming a wedge between us.
He took this new role 6 months ago, where the stress he was under before doubled. Before then, he was also stressed. I feel so guilty that I feel this way as I see how exhausted and under pressure my partner is, but us, as a couple are suffering from this. I feel so selfish, but theres no affection from him, for months. I miss the little kisses, the cuddles, the joking around, all forms of intimacy really. It's effecting me, and my confidence. I'm quite a sexual person, I always have been - that's just who I am. And understandably, hes tired.. but the constant rejection is hard. I've thought before that hes not interested in me anymore, I'm not attractive to him anymore. He can lay beside me at night for weeks and weeks and show no interest. It's getting me down.
And now theres a potential promotion that hes going for at work. More stress, more pressure, less us. More working in the evenings, less time with our child, less time as a family. It would be fine, if things between us were in a good place before he took this promotion. I know then we would survive a struggling 6 months until things calmed down. But already theres been little affection for a long time, and now it feels were preparing for even longer of no affection or intimacy. I feel lonely in this relationship. He comes home and is so tired he prefers to sit and scroll through his phone for the evening. He does help out with the house etc and he is a good dad when hes present. But selfishly, I miss being a priority in a relationship. And I'm not sure how much longer I can take feeling second, or even third best. I've spoken to him about my concerns, that I'm worried about us, but he has so much on his plate at the minute that it just adds more stress onto of what hes already going through. And like tonight, he gets upset and walks away, needing more time by himself.
I'm at a loss of what to do. I'm grateful that hes working so hard for our family (we both work full-time btw) but at the same time I miss companionship and feeling loved. I know there isnt any magic answer. I love my family, I dont want it to split - especially because of someone who is trying so hard to give us everything... atleast, materialisticly. Sigh. Anyone in the same position?