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Gone no contact.. help me be strong

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Chooseanametouse · 24/09/2020 13:02

I've long put up with behaviour from (ex) bf

He would accuse me that I must be chatting to other guys if my fb said I was active when I wasn't on it. He would get sulky if I didn't reply for a while to messages. If I pointed either of this out to him he would say it was me accusing him and that he's not tied to my hip and isn't spending his life on his phone to message me.. and that i was an insecure paranoid mess.. it would leave me thinking wtf

Any fall out or argument he would block me on all social media and dump me, call me horrible names (b*/C** etc) and things like i was mentally unstable and need serious help, that i would never change and he won't put up with my shit etc

I have gone through a horrible time with an exh who harasses me and have had to deal with police courts etc all of which he was with me through and I confinded in him and he turned around 2 days ago and told me.he thinks I enjoy the harassemt cos it makes.me feel special... I do not. I hate it and spent many days completely broken down by it all (still to this day I get harassment from xh) and then he went on to say I deserve all the abuse I have got from my exh

Hes since blocked me again 2 days ago after telling me things like I have so much hate for him and that I finally have what I wanted, him gone, that he would much prefer to be with his ex and then went on to tell me "just so u know I do love you but you are a horrible nasty person and good luck to your next bloke when they find out what you really are i just have to learn not to love you" and then blocked me.. iv never once showed hatred towards him but have had plenty of it from him.. I literally cannot make sense or get my head around it. I feel so angry as hes put all of his shit behaviour onto me and made out its all me.

I know I deserve better than this..

Day 2 no contact and I know i need to keep it this way.. I guess I just need a handhold and the mumsnet army to keep me from being sucked in if he decides to unblock me and get in contact again...

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Anordinarymum · 24/09/2020 13:03

You only get harrassment if you allow it to happen

Ludo19 · 24/09/2020 13:04

I'll hold your hand. Don't listen to a word this bastard has said to you. Next relationship be a bit more reserved in what you tell them, till you know them and fully gauge their character. As for this one, leave well alone x

Chooseanametouse · 24/09/2020 13:08

My exh i have children with, iv done well and removed most of his control. (He has stalled and followed me at times). but he now mostly uses the kids to keep harassing me, I ignore most of it but still very mentally exhausting.

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