It’s a birthday one

[BDOne]

I had a bit of a minor argument with my boyfriend last night. I didn’t think it was anything serious and it was more jokey than anything else.

However, today is my birthday and he hasn’t sent me a birthday message. We work together and he has emailed me on the work email about some work matter so I know he’s working. We don’t live together.

I don’t want to be childish but this has hurt my feelings. We don’t do cards or presents because he doesn’t see the need but I’d expect a call (or even a quick text if he was busy).

It almost feels like he is punishing me. Am I being a drama queen or is this rubbish boyfriend behaviour?

OP please let us know if things got any better and he actually managed to wish you a Happy Birthday.

Well it turns out he’s completely forgotten. He hasn’t apologised but has now wished me happy birthday.

What's the rest of the relationship like?

He doesn't sound very nice - what do you get out of the relationship? Do you feel loved and valued day to day?

Dump him .... give yourself that as a present.

Happy birthday OP! Fuck him, those who “don’t see a need for cards and presents” are usually as tight as a nuns flaps!

Happy Birthday OP.

Ok, sometimes these things slip your mind, (I’m being generous here!!)
But all in all he sounds really miserable. If he doesn’t spoil you a little on your birthday, then how does he lighten your life in other ways? An overkill gift a day late doesn’t have nearly the heart warm impact that a thoughtful gift or gesture on your day does. But then he doesn’t do gifts either😔. Sending you wishes for a happy year ahead.

My husband gave me a great birthday yesterday and has repeated it today with my twin sister visiting -took charge of dinner and cake and ice cream. Even if he hates celebrating birthdays (which he doesn't)he's get over himself to show he cared for both of us.

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We don’t do cards or presents because he doesn’t see the need

You have agency over your life OP.

If this isn't something you'd naturally feel the same about (as most people wouldn't) then it's ok for you to decide it means you aren't compatible...

It's such a shitty attitude. He won't even get a card because he "doesn't see the need" even though it would make you happy?

£2-3 isn't worth making you happy?

Come on OP he sounds like an absolute prick.

Poor form to quote myself but... this all still stands especially if he forgot! Don't you think so OP?

I'm not bothered Re cards and presents for my own birthday. Despite that I always make a big effort for others (husband, family etc). He is a selfish pig not only for not making an effort but also bloody forgetting. Seriously don't set the bar so low. You can do better.

Also belated happy birthday. 😀

Firstly Happy Birthday 🥳

He's a crap bf! Birthdays are important and should be acknowledged no matter what your age. Especially ATM as it's something to look forward to and be happy about.

What a delight he is. I can’t abide people who take all the joy out of life.

Happy birthday for yesterday (it was mine too) I hope you had a lovely evening with your friends and family and didn't let his selfish miserable behaviour ruin it. i agree with everyone else, he might not think these things are important, but you do, and so he should have made the effort for you. On his birthday he can ignore it all he likes, that's his choice, but for yours he should have made you feel special. Depending on the rest of the relationship I would be thinking about what the future holds with him

Well it turns out he’s completely forgotten. He hasn’t apologised but has now wished me happy birthday.

When there is so little joy in the world at the moment, why wouldn’t you make a tiny bit of effort to make the one you love happy?
I would ask him this and absolutely base my decision on whether to stay or go, on the answer.
Any man is not necessarily always better than no man at all!

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Hope you had a nice evening with family.

These days with smart phones and social media prompting every birthday there’s no excuse. I hope he spoils you other times if not I would be questioning the longevity of this relationship.

He knows I love buying and receiving presents but isn’t interested

It doesnt matter what it is, he knows you like something and refuses to do it. What kind of mean-spirited person treats the person they supposedly love that way?

Please don't settle for this.

Happy birthday op

And oh god, please get rid of him. He's proper proper shit. He's just decided your birthday doesn't exist. Don't live your life putting your needs last.