Things that annoy you about your partner

[Ruby0707]

Mine are:

-He slurps his coffee in tiny sips
-He talks really loudly when telling a story to the point where I have to tell him not to shout (he doesn't realise he's doing it)
-He swears a lot, in general conversation

What are yours and is it normal to feel really annoyed by little things when the relationship is great? Is this really shallow?

He expects the kids to tidy up after themselves, but it's ok for him to not put his shoes away, or put his dishes in the dishwasher.
He doesn't make his fair share of cuppas.
He doesn't seem to see that the washing basket is full, or the carpet could do with a hoover, or the bathrooms need cleaning.

I could go on, they'll all be housework related though.

It's perfectly normal to find your DP annoying, I'm sure they have a long list of our annoyances too!

Everything
He pretty much lives in the shed. Is no help to me or the kids. I wish he would just go. I've made it clear I'm fed up with him but he brushes it off. I said I was hoping you would be going back to work so u could just leave.
He talks down to me like I'm one of the kids, is overweight, boring and makes my skin crawl

He talks really loud that you can't get a word in. When he's drunk he will talk to random people and seems to forget that I'm out with him.
He plays cod first thing in the morning, or watches loud fb videos instead of giving me any attention.
Loads of things crate on me lol but luckily I don't live with him.

He takes a fuckin age to tell a story or even a snippet of information. Also when he phones, there's always a dramatic pause, like he's about to drop a bombshell but it's actually just pish.....winds me up

@Ludo19

He takes a fuckin age to tell a story or even a snippet of information. Also when he phones, there's always a dramatic pause, like he's about to drop a bombshell but it's actually just pish.....winds me up

This one made me laugh! Mine does that too re telling a story...get on with it!

@thecatsarecrazy

Everything He pretty much lives in the shed. Is no help to me or the kids. I wish he would just go. I've made it clear I'm fed up with him but he brushes it off. I said I was hoping you would be going back to work so u could just leave. He talks down to me like I'm one of the kids, is overweight, boring and makes my skin crawl

This sounds hard, hope you are ok!

I think it’s normal to a certain extent to be annoyed as I’m sure there are certain things about you that annoy him. However I’ve noticed the less I’m into someone the more annoying they become to me and the less likely I can let those annoyances roll off me.

He's lazy.

Basically. Affects most things.

He watched the children yesterday while I was out. I've gone to cook their tea and there's nothing in. He fed them yesterday and went shopping. I asked why he didn't buy anything. He started shouting at me, oh I was going to I don't like you attacking me.. fat lot of good when I have 3 kids who need feeding and complaining

Thinks he's always right
Blames me for everything
Does little housework or childcare

He is naturally messy
He takes too long to shit.
Too long to shower
He snores.
He is always tired but never sleeps early.
He never plans anything for us to do. It's always me!

My other half is a stress head that annoys me

Other then that he does everything for the kids and loves us all dearly

He puts empty cartons back in the cupboard.

When I asked if we need anything for the weekly shop he fails to mention that he used the last off....

Pubic hairs constantly shedding, leaving me to pick them up in the WC and bath all the time. I've asked him to 'manscape' down there as I think it will help but he refuses .

Nose hair
Farting
Puts things in wrong place
Won’t propose
Won’t let me have a baby. Or a cat
Complains I’m messy but barely cleans
Takes ages in toilet
Stinks
Sweaty
Drives too fast
Hogs the desk
Doesn’t make enough fuss on my birthday
Prefers to spend Christmas with his mother than me
Doesn’t get me presents often enough
Buys me chocolate when am dieting
Won’t let me pluck his eyebrows or back hair
Won’t let me freeze his wart
Unpredictable and prone to tantrums when drunk
Too keen on exercise
Makes me help when he’s putting shelves up
Mean to the vacuum cleaner
Gets wrong flowers
Hugs me when I’m cooking
Won’t let me give him pedicure
Says I complain too much

@Queenoftheashes I can see you have given this considerable thought

@Queenoftheashes

What the fuck do you see in him?

He has a nice voice

He has his kids 50/50 (I absolutely don’t have a problem with this and am glad he is a very good dad) but he has them Thursday to Sunday so we can never do anything on a Friday or Saturday night. Won’t speak to his ex to change things. I know I’m being unreasonable, I know what the deal is with dating someone with kids, but it would be nice once in a while to go out for a drink in a Friday or Saturday night.

@Queenoftheashes

@sweatybetty20 thurs-sun every week isn't fair. Basically their mum takes them to school and spends no out of school days with them 🤔 I'd be challenging that to every other weekend or two on two off. That sucks.

@Sciencebabe - yeah, it does suck. I’ve only been seeing him a few months and we’ve decided that the kids won’t know about me until New Year (early teens and very hormonal) but the ex is a bit further down the line with her new fella and spends most of the weekend with him. Just feel a bit short changed.