What do you and your OH talk about?

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Don’t know if I’m being dramatic but I sometimes feel like I have nothing to say to my OH and it’s beginning to worry me. We’ve been together for 7 months and I love him to bits but sometimes my mind goes completely blank so I don’t say much. I was raised by two parents that barely spoke to each other so I’m a little too comfortable with silence I guess. Thing is I’m a very outgoing and chatty person normally. This has only become an issue since Covid began. I feel like I’m no longer interesting due to not being able to see people as much. I definitely tend to overthink things to the point where I feel nervous to speak.How can I break the awkward silences? I’m shocked this is happening to me as I usually have no issue talking to people. I want to make it clear the issue is me not him. If he notices I’m a little quiet then he thinks he’s annoyed me so he goes a little quiet too. We’re very compatible so I’d like to find a way of getting past this

Books, telly, random stuff that’s happened during the day. Anything really. Can you maybe start watching a new tv show together then you’d have something easy to talk about?

I’m not getting out much at the min so I tell mine all about stuff I read on Facebook, what my friends are up (life’s much more interesting when your ignoring covid and living your best life)
I tell him about the crazy dreams I’ve been having, my pregnancy symptoms, the daft things out toddler had been up to.
He tells me about work, the books he’s reading, stuff his mum tells him about her work/friends, anything interesting from his WhatsApp group with his friends.

Something normally sparks discussion and we often have deep philosophical debates

Telly.
Things we've seen on social media/online gossip. We often send each other memes/posts we have seen online that we think the other would find funny.
We discuss household things like bills, when the MOT is due etc.
We discuss what things we would like to do at the weekend, or what trips we would like to take in the near future.
The inevitable meal planning conversation "what do you want for dinner?"
Chat about clothes we have seen and want to buy on pay day. He has a trainers addiction....
Chat a lot about the kids and what they've been up to. Currently spending SO much time chatting about DS (12) who seems to be perpetually grounded.
Chat about family. Who's doing what & what our mums have bitching about this week.

Could you talk about the same sort of thing you talk to your friends and colleagues about?

These are great suggestions thank you! Most of the time we’re fine and the conversation flows but sometimes I get all up in my head and struggle to talk. I worry about sounding boring or mundane but even mundane things can spark great conversations

Me and my DH often sit in compatible silence, might not talk for ages but not ignoring each other. I think some people struggle to do this. I might be reading or on my iPad, like now. He doesn’t read but paints or watches crap TV.

We chat about news, family, friends, work, WFH but still have contact. We talk about plans and holidays, problems and worries.
We sometimes have mini debates but he gets bored. We find something we both like to watch together.

But we also put down our phones, there’s no conversation killer like being ignored. I’m amazed how many couples are on their phones and not looking at each other.

We can sit in companionable silence sometimes but we talk about pretty much everything!

Work, elderly relatives, other family, DCs, current affairs, finance, stuff we've heard on the radio (don't watch tv often), books. The back garden (he made it over during lockdown) and plans for the front. Our relationship, just to make sure we're both still happy.
Health has required a bit too much conversation this year... future plans, diet and exercise, his start up business and consequent wrestling with social media, me procrastinating over my Etsy shop!

I’ve had this issue with the guy I’m seeing and some friends. I’m just not interesting even before COVID lol So usually I find things in the news or some crazy post I’ve read on reddit or some other forum and bring it up for discussion. The PP have given some great ideas as well.

I feel exactly the same, I rarely leave the house now as I'm working from home so feel like I've got nothing to talk about at all. Glad I'm not the only one, will def use some of these ideas.