Recently had a fling with someone which ended on bad terms. I’m mid twenties and confided in them that I was a virgin and they took it weirdly. Prior to this I’ve dated lots of guys but never had more than a few dates before either I’ve ended it or they have.
I do get a fair amount of male attention and after meeting guys have been asked to go to theirs or had them to stay at mine but nothing ever progressed (usually because I didn’t want it to go further at the time/didn’t end up progressing into a relationship anyway). A few guys did seem to want to date and have a relationship/pursued me over the years but wasn’t right for me.
Anyway! I confided in a friend about what I had said and his reaction and she asked how I had responded to his shock/surprise. I muttered something and she asked if I’d told him that I hadn’t really had the opportunity before (to sleep with someone) 🤔 The more I think about this (even though she meant well) I find it really patronising and quite frustrating... I have had multiple opportunities over the years but for whatever reason (confidence? Timing? Lack of chemistry?) didn’t pursue them and just haven’t met the right guy. Wasn’t proactive either really. Feel quite patronised that friend has boiled it down to that explanation and that that is what they think of me. Am I being over sensitive? And do I say anything?