We are divorcing. I’m divorcing him, it is going very slowly for reasons outside our control. He drinks too much, in the pub and we have had separate rooms for years. One of our kids is in the habit of sleeping in the same bed as him - we have always had very fluid sleeping arrangements, but he’s recently in the habit of phoning his family late at night, from bed, with sleeping child next to him. He’s just done it now and given me the worst slagging. We haven’t told the children about the divorce yet, but he is SO careless about what he says. I think it’s damaging our child - he’s a sensitive sort who listens to conversations at the best of times. What do I do?