Boyfriend makes comments/jokes about kids and marriage. Is this a sign he wants this with me?

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When we met, he told me he is looking for something serious. About 5 months, he was concerned we wanted different things as he wants marriage/kids in the next few years. With me, he will often say "look how cute that mother/father is with their kid" or "that'll be me as a husband babe" and often shows me houses/cost of houses in the areas that we go to. Thoughts? Or maybe he's just getting older?

What do you want?

He’s making to clear to you he wants marriage, kids and a mortgage. At least you know where you stand with him!

He's being open with what he wants. If you don't want those things you need to make it clear

Until it happens, it’s just talk.

If marriage and kids isn’t something that you want, walk away now, if it is, make clear your desired timescale.

If you don't want those things and he does then it's unfair to stay with him long term in my opinion.

My DP is very anti marriage but every now and then he refers to me as 'the wife'. I often wonder if this means he would marry me as he's always said he doesn't believe in marriage and it's just a bit of paper. Maybe he does want that with me?

I think the only way you'll know is to ask!

@aloevera2

Do you want to marry him? If do and he says it's just a piece of paper, doesn't want to etc then it seems foolish to stay with him as you have such conflicting values and plans.

Some people seem to think a wedding is a marriage. I'm not bothered about my wedding day hugely but I do want to be married. If you do and your partner doesn't, you aren't a good fit surely?

Mine did this with me...then married someone else

[quote newnameforthis123]@aloevera2

Do you want to marry him? If do and he says it's just a piece of paper, doesn't want to etc then it seems foolish to stay with him as you have such conflicting values and plans.

Some people seem to think a wedding is a marriage. I'm not bothered about my wedding day hugely but I do want to be married. If you do and your partner doesn't, you aren't a good fit surely?[/quote]
No, I'm not massively bothered either to be honest. I've been married before and he hasn't. I'd marry him like a shot though if he asked 😂

Ask him.

If you've been married before, you're not exactly a blushing teen. Why don't you just ask him?

He will be the one that can give you an answer. Not random people on the internet.