I think my marriage may be over, what do I do?

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Hi all. I’m reaching out to see if anyone else has experienced the same issues as myself, and for any advice really.
My husband and I have been married 4 years, together for 10 years.
He has always been very much concerned by his appearance, in terms of feeling he never looks good and compares himself to others. He also claims since being with me, he doesn’t fancy any other woman!
Very soon after marrying we found out we couldn’t have kids, and he shut down a lot because of that. Despite trying to talk about it, he never felt I listened to him and made it about me, but I would disagree with that.
Sex has always been an issue, he compares himself to previous relationships I have had, and never has confidence that I am happy with our sex life either.
He hates the idea of me finding another man good looking, and claims if I do I should be with them, not him. Even down to film stars etc.
We are at a point where we are not talking, not communicating at all and I feel we have both given up.
I cannot put up with the what I feel is constant moaning, constant comparing to others etc. I want to have fun, be able to joke if I find another man good looking as I don’t care if he found another woman good looking, it’s natural.
What do we do? I shut down when we keep going over the same rubbish all the time. He doesn’t trust me, and Im just at a point where I think why am I bothering.
Can anyone please give some advice?

Get out of this miserable marriage before it completely shatters your mental health. I got an anxious, sick feeling just reading your post.

See a solicitor as soon as possible and make plans to leave. I'm very sorry about your fertility issues, but not having children with him makes this so much easier in terms of a clean break.

I think Couple Counselling might help.

He is very insecure. You can't fix that, that is his work to do on himself. What is keeping you there?

This sounds exhausting and his reactions aren’t normal. if he can’t fix this through medication or counselling, I’d leave. Depends on whether you feel done already

I think Couple Counselling might help.

I strongly disagree. Your husband has major, deep seated issues that couple's therapy will never fix.

Is it he unable to have children? If so I can't imagine what thay would do to someone's self esteem. Try marriage counselling, or individual help you both get on the Same path and discuss option available

Is he putting all the blame on you, OP? Does he take any responsibility?

OP this makes me so sad for you.
Perhaps couples counselling would help, but it sounds like a very big issue to overcome.
I used to be quite jealous in relationships when I was younger, but my DH and I can joke about finding other people attractive. Even friends of ours and people we know. Because I am 100% secure and trust him it just isn't an issue. That's how it should be in a good relationship.