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What would you think?

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namechange2958427 · 22/09/2020 15:54

This is about a close friends relationship who I am trying to offer advice to. Will try to keep it as simple as possible. He ended it a month ago. They have one DC together. Everything was apparently great until literally 6 weeks before he ended it he became very distant with her. When she finally had it out with him he said his feelings had changed and he didn't want to be together anymore. She was devastated.

I did wonder if anyone else was involved and she said she had asked him that and he swore there was not. She seemed to believe him.

Since there split he has become very nasty and is making it very difficult for my friend. In particular regarding access to their child. I don't want to put on here too much as its potential outing. But I feel he is trying to ensure he doesn't have to pay maintenance. His actions and attitude seem really harsh it is like he hates her. I don't get it he ended it. Why does he feel the need to be so nasty when surely now the best thing is to get on for the sake of their child. I could understand if she ended it and he was being bitter.

I am now beginning to wonder if there is somebody else and she will suddenly pop up in a couple months time as if they have just met.

Has anyone experienced anything similar? Did you suss out the reason?

OP posts:
Aquamarine1029 · 22/09/2020 15:56

I'd bet my house there's another woman.

namechange2958427 · 22/09/2020 17:18

I agree @Aquamarine1029 I mentioned it once but didn't want to keep saying it as I didn't want to put ideas in her head and make the situation worse. She is being so weak with him as well. She keeps saying she wants a good relationship with him for the sake of DC. But she needs to stand up to him I feel he is going to walk all over her when it comes to the house etc.

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litterbird · 22/09/2020 22:05

When they leave for another woman they often display this nastiness. It is usually guilt that comes out as this horrible behaviour. She needs to do a complete turn around and stand firm with him. There is someone else so she needs to be prepared for it. Probably won't last but your friend needs to just communicate about the child and stand firm on everything.

Lilly1980 · 22/09/2020 22:58

OP this happened to my friend. Her husband left her 2 weeks before she gave birth.

He was disgusting towards her, really vile. Like you said, anyone would think it was her that had left him. It was like he was trying to ruin her.

Turns out he had been sleeping with another woman since his wife was 3 months pregnant. He does anything he can to reduce his maintenance costs. Even put through the courts that he is financially responsible for his girlfriends daughter ( which he is not ) just to reduce his payment by £50.

He really is a vile creature

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