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Need a rant argh

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needabloodyrant · 22/09/2020 12:56

DP can be quite hot headed at times. It doesn't take much to annoy him. We had already butted heads this morning when he got an unnecessary sly dig in at me over something minor. Whatever

We went out earlier to do food shopping, and parked in a different spot to our usual. I noticed he was parked quite close to the car on his side, which is something stupid he does if the other driver parks on the line. Spiteful just so they can ask him to move. Asshole.

Anyway, just as we parked up, the owner of the car beside him came back to her car and stood and waited for us to come out so she could get into her car. I told him to go to another spot and that she was waiting to get into her car. After a minute of her waiting and me asking him to move, he eventually did. He rolled his window down as we were going to pass her and said 'you parked on the line, that's why you can't get in'. I was absolutely mortified at this stage, head in my hand and felt shit for her.

She said 'and you still parked right beside me?', so DP being a twat, snapped and said 'right, and I'll park back there again.' Then reversed back into the spot!!! The poor woman had to struggle to get into her car and of course I'm still bloody mortified.

When she was in her car, he drove to our usual space. I asked what the hell that was about and he said her attitude pissed him off. I was dumbfounded and reminded him that there's so so much going on in the world right now and snapping over something so minor is unnecessary.

He told ME not to annoy HIM 'again', after his sly dig earlier. I asked him if he was serious and he got pissed and said 'your attitude is pissing me off right now'. So I said to him, 'her attitude and my attitude have pissed you off, but you think your behaviour is okay?' ... And he said 'yep. you know what, I'm gonna park right at the end of the car park', whilst he sat in the car with DC. I asked him if he really expected me to push the big full trolley all the way down there and he said yup. Asked him why he was doing it, and he said it was as to annoy me. So I told him he was awful.

I did the shopping anyway and he messaged to say they were near our usual. I was fucked off with him in the car all the way home and I still am now. I can't believe what an absolute twat he was. It's honestly made me see a different side to him.

I've also told him he's cold and callous and to leave me alone. I'm currently sitting here with rage face on, totally fucked off that he was such a knobhead to both me and the other lady. Absolutely man child.

Needed to get that off my chest but I'm still raging and can feel my blood fucking boiling.

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AttilaTheMeerkat · 22/09/2020 13:39

I would think that he has been similarly shit and otherwise controlling to you before now as well but today he further ramped it up a notch and against another unfortunate lady as well as you.

I have to look at you also in all this. Have you now started to wonder why you are with this man at all; a man who is entitled, selfish and abusive as well as behaving like a knuckle dragging manchild. I would honestly start planning your exit from this relationship as of today.

Your DC and you here are merely being dragged down with him by mere association. Is he really a decent example of a role model to his children if he can and does treat strangers this awfully?. What on earth must they be thinking?.

He does not own any of the spaces in the car park either.

Aerial2020 · 22/09/2020 13:50

Why on earth did you carry on with the shopping? I wouldn't go anywhere with him.
I'm guessing this is just a small example of what he is like.

mbosnz · 22/09/2020 14:04

He's sounding like an obnoxious bully boy. Is he equal opportunities a bully to both men and women?

sophmum31 · 22/09/2020 14:33

Oh my word. That sounds like something my ex would do. I got to the point where I hated going out anywhere with him because someone would drive to close to him and he’d do this thing where he chased after them and cut in right in front of them. I found it excruciating! Everyone else was always in the wrong.

As my daughter got older (about 12 onwards), these incidents had a big effect on her and she found them really distressing. Even seeing how much things upset her he still didn’t change so I knew he never would.

I’ve got no advice for you really but I understand how you are feeling!

Divebar · 22/09/2020 14:38

I feel sad for your children witnessing that behaviour.... why was your DH driving you ? Do you not drive? There’s not a chance in hell I’d want to be sitting in the car while that debacle went on... you have my sympathy OP.

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