We’re a female couple and have been married for 7 years. We have been together for well over 10. For about a year now we have lived in different countries because of work. Covid made the long distance relationship even more difficult with travel restrictions.
Over the last months a friend of my wife has become more and more present in her life: dinners, days out, almost weekly sleepovers and regular days spent working together from our home. This friend, apparently, has also been in a long term relationship for almost 20 years and they are getting married next year. My wife is supposed to be the maid of honour.
This entire set up seems a bit weird though, given the amount of time they spend, bordering on having half moved in. In a way I am happy my wife has company, but I am left wondering that is happening. We have casually talked about it and my concerns were brushed away that they are just very good friends. Maybe that’s true and I am just paranoid because of the distance.
We are continuing our search to buy a bigger house and we are in the run for adopting a child. When we talk or meet, there is no change between us and our plans continue. Our recent holiday has been one of the most romantic ones we ever had. Yet, I am increasingly doubting this set up, especially with big commitments coming up.
Any thoughts would be much appreciated. Maybe someone has been in a similar situation.