Ladies who er........do it themselves for want of a better phrase.

[PregnantGrrrl]

Right, having knackered my last vibrator many moons ago, and having a DH with zero sex drive, i think it's time i took it upon myself to er....sort things out as it were!

Can anyone recommend any websites for sex toys, any books/magazines etc? It's been a while since i bought anything, and things were soooo much easier when a copy of Naughty Neighbours or flash of my boobs were all that was needed to get something going (Sigh!)

I can't recall the last time i had an orgasm (alone or otherwise) and that's mighty depressing i think. I'M TAKING BACK MY SEXUALITY!- Even if it is on my own

Any suggestions greatly received!!!!!!!

Porn can kill your sex drive (been there done that) if that's what you mean by magazines, and vibrators can numb feeling.

Have you thought about really doing it yourself without any bits and bobs? We're designed to be able to do it that way.

www.freeporn.to

I am inclined to agree with Elizabeth, make the best of what YOU have as opposed to relying on er.. toys or any other assistance! Can be more enjoyable..

I know from experience, having a partner with no sex deive is quite insulting.. tell me if i am crossing the line here but is the fact that he has no sex drive upsetting you and have you talked to him about it?

are you in the second trimester, by any chance?

Oh I know how you feel. exdh had zero sex drive. Find it funny now looking back at the time I got him to go to his doctor about it and I was heavily pg. Wouldn't have had the boys though if it'd been left to him

Anyway, if you do get a vibe those little bullet ones are good. My mate got one recently for £4.99.

Elizabeth- i have little success without toys (perhaps i don't try hard enough?!) and i happen to like magazines / pictures etc. Not fussed on most films though- too picky.

Wurlywoo- talking pointless now, been this way for years, have to accept that we are different and i can't change, neither can he.

suzywong- due in 10days, although this has little to do with hormones. More about looking forward to being 'me' again, feeling womanly, getting my body and feelings back.

Ulyscreams- did he go? What happened? I have broached doctors with DH, but i'm not sure if it's over stepping the mark. I mean, i'm accepting that we are different, but sometimes i wonder if it's physical (hormonal) and could be resolved. Or perhaps that's wishful thinking.

www.asstr.org/main.html for erotic fiction

www.lovehoney.com for toys (usually cheaper than Ann Summers)

hmm fair enough.. seems a shame though surely that cant be good for the relationshop? As I can imagine how it must make you feel.

Didnt realise you were pg! and I can understand you wanting to feel like you are you again, pregnancy can make us lose our identity a bit well it has for me.

Quick q, is he very overweight at all? That can affect testosterone levels.
Or is it just since you got pg?

the boudoir

mostly the same toys as ann summers, just a little cheaper.

sex toys.com are quite good, but you cant beat a bunny (rabbit) from ann summers, good luck, have fun. x

thanks for the links guys. shall check them out later!

i asked him last night if he thought we may have sex again, since i think we've done it twice since i got pregnant- he maintains it's more (but it's not!) Told him i'm getting myself a present this week aswell. He said getting it on with me at the moment was like me sitting on my birthing ball! Sounds awful but i know what he means. I don't know how many more times i can say 'spoons!' though!

we've been together 9yrs, the 1st 2yrs were incredible sexually, the 3rd was ok. Pants since then really. he's an amazing man in every other way though, so no plans to trade him in

he doesn't make me feel sexy anymore though- pregnant or not. i feel like it's time i make the effort to make myself feel sexy...god i'm only in my 20s

LOL, it is hard to service oneself with a great big bump in the way.
If you have the energy (and can get him to join in obv), sitting on top of bloke is good when pg, then you are totally in charge and can focus on pelvic squeezing yourself to orgasm. You have to sit up very straight or your bump will knock the wind out of him. He might even like being used as a sex toy! (Added bonus of huge knockers bouncing in his face.)

Agree with Elizabeth on both points, but I also find porn erotic. Something to do with the taboo. If you like reading erotica (which I feel less guilty about), there are some good blogs out there. I like Abby Lee's Diary

Sorry if this is TMI, but when I was hugely pregnant, my dh stood up at the edge of the bed, while I lay on my back with my legs bent over the edge. it worked.

My dh and I have been through times when our sex drives differed (usually my libido is waaaay stronger than his, but at the mo I can't be bothered and he is always up for it). It seems to work itself out if you're patient; and I think you are doing the right thing to rely on yourself in the mean time. Hopefully the time will come when you are back in sync with each other soon.

Another suggestion: a shower massager? more gentle than toys, ime.

hth.

cheers guys. i did manage to paint my own toenails yesterday, so who knows what else i can manage?!

bump will be gone soon anyway- thank god!

might check out the erotica- not really read any before.

have just ordered a couple of erotica books...bit less obvious round the house than full on magazines, with kids or family round. (Not that i'd leave it on the kitchen table or anything!)

going to get myself a toy and some perfume later. Perfume sounds silly i know, but i never have any, nobody buys me any, and i put buying things for other people first, so never bought myself any. Will feel like proper recklessness for me!

hey PG i work as an ann summers party organiser so if u want any advice on our products just drop me a line, ive never been able to 'see to myself' naturally, i love my toys! i can personally recommend the new 'rampant rabbit wave' it ripples up and down the shaft and is completely amazing works really well from behind with or without the clit rabbit. one thing that i found as well was that as soon as i got a toy my dp was def up for it more i think he felt threatened bless him. we do some good female-friendly porn too directed by a woman called anna span, thats worth a look. dont suffer on ur own! orgasms are ur womanly right!!

the main issues i have with films are: dialogue / story (really, what's the point?!) and implants. Hate them both.

Become good friends with your pillow !

Works every time

Greathauntiewurlie: thankyou for recommending the boudoir

Received my order yesterday

Just sent DH a rude text after i opened my presents to myself. Then panicked when i immediately got a call from my boss, thinking i'd sent text to him. I hadn't, thank god!!!!