Almost a year after separation - dreams

[Dodgydreamer]

I left my husband almost a year ago but over the last month or so I've been having a lot of dreams about him and every time this happens I end up feeling so low in myself.

They are not happy dreams but I haven't experienced any major trauma in life so they aren't horrific in nature.

Why though, am I having them now? I was just starting to feel like I was moving on and I'm finding it confusing as well as upsetting.

I had this and still do occasionally after 5 years. I think it’s your mind hearing the disapproving voice in your head and trying to make sense of it. I also think you have them later on when the iMmediate danger has passed and your subconscious is trying to find a way forward. It will get better, trust your instincts.

I've been separated 3 years and I too have had dreams with my Ex in them. Sometimes he's being nice in my dream - sometimes he's being very scary. Once I was even pregnant in my dream by him (I'm in my 40's!!). Either way it's always left me pretty shaken and takes me a while to shake the feelings it dredges up.
At the end of the day he played a large part in my life up until now so perhaps i shouldn't be surprised he pops up in my sub conscious every now and again??

Mine is still very difficult any time he gets an opportunity. I my dreams, I sometimes ask a question and he just agrees. The feeling of relief is amazing but it’s never going to happen in real life. So strange

I get dreams about my ex H - 30 years after splitting up !! Honestly, I’m not sure that aspect ever goes away for everyone

Thanks everyone, I think I'd be fine if it weren't so frequent just now