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[MizMoonshine]

Is this normal?

My daughter is 4 weeks old on Wednesday. DP is on paternity leave atm. My eight year old son has returned to school and given us all a lovely cold recently.

I'm breast feeding and she seems to be having a growth spurt on top of the cold, so is very demanding atm.

The kids aren't bothering me at all.

DP is killing me with his fucking presence. He means well. He's helping where he can but he's just always THERE. He will complain he's tired and then just try to nap in the room with me and two kids, so when he drops off, I'll take the baby and go to another room. He will then wake up and complain about me leaving.

Any room I am in, he must be in. 24/7.

I feel suffocated.

Is this normal? Am I just feeling the effects of sleep deprivation and a house full of sick people or am I about to be on the news for losing my shit and smothering him with a pillow?

It's normal, you're extremely tired and irritated, whatever he does is likely to annoy you atm. He probably thinks he's helping . Can you talk to him....explain how you're feeling. Sounds like you need a bit of space and some "me" time. It will get better in time I promise.

I felt like that when my DD was small. Having a baby with me 24 /7 was enough and having to give attention to my o/h just felt like too much. Luckily my o/h wasn't needy in anyway, your's sounds incredibly smothering.

Yeah, It's normal, right now it's like everyone 'needs' you at all times.

I felt like my DC and DH were actually blood sucking leeches for quite a while (not literally, obviously ! , but like they always neeeeded me) and I was very pissed off about it. (despite the fact that they just wanted to be with me).

I found that if I expressed and had a bottle in the fridge, I could say to DH that I just needed a good long soak in a bubble bath as I was so tired/ stressed etc, so could he please 'help' by taking care of DC for a couple of hours?'' ( sometimes I'd ask him to stay with DC while I ''popped to my friends'', but I'd actually just drive to the beach and sit watching the waves with a coffee for an hour), but these times saved my sanity !!

Oh how annoying! Can you pretend to have diarrhoea and disappear to the bathroom for peace and mumsnet on a regular basis?!

I'd be the same. Maybe tell him you need some time to yourself to relax/pretend you want to nap. DD could come in with you.