Would this make you leave?

[GoingOutOfMyMind1]

I’ve been going through hell with a man I love but hate at the same time.

I found out that when he was married, he had an affair and she got pregnant. She wanted to keep the baby but he persuaded her to abort promising that they would have children together once he left his marriage.

She had the abortion and he still didn’t end his marriage. Eventually she met someone else and left him.

I can’t look at him the same way since I discovered this. There were other problems too but this really tipped me over the edge. Have gone no contact and I think I actually hate him now.

AIBU?

How did you discover it? Did he tell you?

You are not being unreasonable at all, I think you’ve had a lucky escape.

There were bits of conversation that we had and I guessed in the end. He didn’t deny it confirm but I think that spoke volumes.

Deny it or confirm

Sorry, I should have said that part of my AIBU is that I still love him deeply. It so fucking painful.

That’s so tough OP. Problem is I don’t think I’d ever look at him the same way again- his moral compass is questionable & I wouldn’t trust that he wouldn’t do it to me.

Broken promises all round it sounds. Don't let yourself be added to that list.

Enjoy your future without him.