Serious help needed to confront a cheating bastard!

[Mushyheadmuddythoughts]

Found tinder on my OHs fone i need to confront him how the fuck do i do this?! Kids are in the house when he finishes work i dont want them to hear..with corona restrictions i dont have anyone to babysit them!

You can't evict somebody from their own house. That's illegal.

Except - OP - you keep changing details of your story and come up with new ‘details’ when questioned.
You also don’t seem to engage in any reflections or in any conversations with people giving you advice.
What you want from here is unclear.
And I do think you are at best embellishing and making up stuff.
So - my guess is you are bored and wasting people’s time. If you really had a baby 4 months ago by your account - you’d have no time for any of this.

Here are some examples of your various posts....

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‘and check through his apps hes got the app last used in july! He cant have been meeting people we ve been together 24/7 almost because of lockdown and us both sheilding what would you do? Confront him? Or accept its probably been a bit of dirty talk and not taken any further?!

im worried hes been having emotional affairs but then i cant see him doing that to me

i have no problem with him watching porn but i suspected he was messaging people so i confronted him and he took a long time to admit he was watching porn

i can accept if he wanted an ego boost i dont want to throw away 20years over some dirty talk with a stranger

Well ive done it ive looked on his fone and he was on tinder last nite! Bastard!!!,,

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So you escalated your story and started this thread for more attention. Me thinks

I've not seen the other thread but in this thread OP seems pretty clear that she's all geared up to get rid of the bloke and she's going to/preparing to act.

So you escalated your story and started this thread for more attention

@Josuk Or it could be that she's found out more stuff, as women do.

To avoid your children overheating and it being a big hoo-ha is have his bags packed and a text written out saying you’ve dropped them at his relatives house and not to come back as he is not welcome. Put your key in the door or if you have an opportunity, try get his key before he leaves the house before you confront.

Defo consider changing the locks or having a barrel ready to swap if you’re unable to get the key.

Good luck!

@Josuk well you thought wrong but if this what you enjoy doing with your time then carry on i have plenty of other people offering me helpful advice and/or support. Perhaps you should be asking yourself why you re soo reluctant to do the same..the situation escalated as i found out more details and updated OPS. I have a baby and guess what my baby at 4months old naps should i apologise for that? I dont need to prove anything to you but you ve not shown me or anyone else on here what details ice supposedly changed?!

@SoulofanAggron thank you !

ive..i smell a troll @Josuk*

All I said - if OP is genuine - than why doesn’t she engage in more normal exchanges.

Maybe because you keep derailing her thread?

The fact you keep posting suggests it is YOU who is desperate for attention.

OP I hope you are ok.

I have commented on the OP’s original thread and also noticed that she didn’t really engage. And other people questioned as to what she was really looking for.
It does feel more like someone making up a story than a real person with a real issue.
Hate to waste time on posts like that.

i smell a troll Josuk

@Josuk is no troll. They have been on MN for a long time. You on the other hand have just started posting in the last couple of weeks and as @MMmomDD said you don't really engage and your story just gets more elaborate.

Josuk is no troll.

@kazzer2867 They may not always be a troll, but in this thread they are playing troll-hunter, which is banned or frowned upon.

2 pages and OP has replied/posted 8 times on top of her initial post. I'd say that's quite a bit of engagement.

Yes - SoulOfAggron is right.
I guess I never really read Talk guidelines - or rather assumed that they just mean we need to be generally polite.

I don’t come here to hunt anyone. Just thought something was off and said it like it appeared to me.
There is a balance to strike between reporting to MN - which can be an unnecessary escalation, and asking the OP what’s really up - which I have seen in a number of threads.

If you do confront him take notice of his reaction. If he gets angry and defensive then he's definitely got something to hide.

@Josuk ive not even had time to read any of your other comments they ve all been deleted by mumsnet so you re wasting you re time trying to harress me

Ive engaged several times but i dont have the time (as i said i have 2small children) to reply to every comment im busy weighing up all of my options and dont want to give too much information and essentially out my family this is a VERY private matter..i came on mumsnet to vent and ask for advice i thought that was the whole point of the site

Thank you to everyone who has given me good advice and support i really appreciate it not everyone on mumsnet is critical

@Mushyheadmuddythoughts

I have been reading through the relationships thread since recently posted for the first time on one and wondered how it is going for you?

Did you manage to speak to him and sort the issue or is it still ongoing?

By the way there is a certain type of individual that inhabits MN's land - whilst most attempt to give advice or add their own experiences there are some that just like to criticise or misread what you say etc. Please ignore them, they really aren't worth the effort and will go elsewhere if you don't engage with them. It can be helpful to just post your views and see what others think and take account of useful suggestions so hopefully you have had a chance to sort a plan out now?

Good luck.