He said I was ruining his tea

[sunoiuy]

This - he said I was ruining his tea when we were discussing our relationship problems.(he'd had a few drinks but still)
He also said he's focusing on work right now if I feel he's not given me much attention
Not sure what I'm asking for from this post. Feel deflated

Were you trying to have this convo with him while he was eating? I don't think that's the best time to do it. You could leave it a few mins until the person's finished.

If nothing else, they won't be able to give you their full attention anyway.

After a few drinks isn't the ideal time to talk to someone either.

Why had he already 'had a few drinks' before you've even eaten your tea ?
Is that contributing to the relationship issue ?

The quick answer at the time to 'ruining his tea' could have been - "Okay. It seemed a sensible time to talk, to me, as we are both able to sit together when not working, but if you prefer not to have this conversation now, when would work for you ?'

Can't make a ny sort of judgement on the 'not giving me much attention' or 'focusing on work' as mean different things to different people, and, sometimes, there are good reasons to focus on work for a set period of time.