Hi All,
i wouldn't usually come on here but think i need impartial and quite frankly people that dont know the individualconcerned to alleviate bias lol
An old friend of mine and I have grown distance in the past coupleof years to the degree that i got fed up of her actions that i deleted her number and just kinda got on with life. She has now reached out to me inviting herself over to "catch up"
First off all my gut was no due to covid but aside from that i really dontsee the need.
She has been a good friend for many years mostly until it all came to a head. She is a very strong character and does rub people up the wrong way. My family have all told me that to be quite frank they dont want to be around her. due to rue comments she has made when i am not round. I mostly ignored it as i know that not all people click, however the issue arose when i was about 37 weeks pregnant with DD2 and she had sent a message out to everyone that she was poorly and in hospital for her crohns disease.
This was early last year so before covid. The issue was i had the flu caught from DD1 from nursery and i couldntvisit her (hospital send no and DH forbid it). I sent flowers and tried to check in via whatsapp. She ignored me for about 5 days and then sent me a long message saying she was disappointed in me and suspected better from her friends. I told her again how ill and heavily pregnant i was and she ignored me again.
The passive aggression was annoying but i left it and had baby etc. I then saw her a few months later at a gathering and she went on to say how ill she was and that she was glad to have her friends around her. It bothered me but tbh so busy with a new baby i just left it and just stopped getting in contact.
I really dontsee the need to reignite all of this but she is pushing for a "catch up" but wont actually say what its about. I dont like confrontation and life is stressfullas it is with lockdown etc
Have any ideas on how i can dodge this bullet ? I have made a promise to myself to end all stressful and toxic relationships in my life.
Any help? sorry for the essay!!