What should I do?

[Lilypad1603]

I've (23F) been with this guy (28) for about 1.5 months. There have been little things that he has been saying casually or in a joking manner which sort of worried me but I'm not sure if they are "red flags".

1. He asked about my income and savings a few of times and each time I refused to tell him the details because it's irrelevant to me. He also (in a joking manner) asked me to cover more than half of bills that we may have ie dates as I earn more than he does. He has never disclosed to me how much he makes. I don't really care either.
2. After I agreed to be in a committed relationship, the outings to dinner and movies kind of stopped. We went out of town for a little weekend holiday but that was the most exciting thing we've done together since being together. I mentioned to him that maybe we need to be more romantic. Dinners and movies out, dating ect. Otherwise we're stuck in a routine of just cooking dinner at his place everytime we see each other. He said something along the lines of " I got you now, I can relax". Also said in a casual and joking tone of voice. Despite the fact that I am happy to split bills and he knows that.
3. I don't mean to sound like a spoiled princess, but during the time that I've been with him, there were no little gifts such as flowers that you might expect in early "honeymoon" stages of a relationship. I don't expect expensive gifts but it's nice when you're being treated occasionally and you treat them back.
4. he expects me to tell my friends that he is my bf but wouldn't tell his friends or family about me. He was keen to meet my family early on and he has met them. A couple of times that we bumped into his friends, he wouldn't introduce me at all. I was just like on a sideline.
5. On the topic of gifts and dates out, from early days I noticed that he would recieve parcels from online shopping almost every week, but would tell me how he is struggling to budget and maybe how I should pay more than him.

I didn't bring up the financial and gifts part of this rant because I don't want him to think that that's all I want. But I just feel like I'm not dating a boyfriend but rather a friend. I can buy s* for myself, that's not a problem, but being in a relationship, I do have a desire to be treated to these things occasionally without having to ask.
I have feelings for him but I am also trying to process the situation as objectively as possible because if that's how it's going to continue to be, I can't see a potential future with him. Or am I being too harsh?
Any advice or perspective would really help.

6 weeks in, Fuck that!
Dump and run, this has no future.

6 weeks in seriously? And he's already saying he's got you and doesn't need to make an effort anymore?

Fuck him off, fgs.

You've just started dating - the time when you work out whether you are compatible, a good fit, well matched. You are not any of those. As for his 'jokes' about you paying etc - many a true word spoken in jest.

Just wondering who is providing the food and cooking the dinners round at his...

Honestly @Lilypad1603

Swerve this one, and in a hurry. This man, who asked about your income and savings AT ALL let alone on your first date, is looking to build a lovely comfy life for himself - with you providing the funds. He really does believe " I got you now, I can relax" but has moved a bit too quickly as you've not bought the house yet, which he's planning on moving into and help me with mortgage. Was he planning on helping with the deposit as well? Or just helping by putting his name on the deeds?

Back away as fast as you can. Let him find another investment.

BTW you deep down know these are red flags - or you wouldn't have come on MN. Well done for recognising that. 🌹

Dear god - ditch him now!

@ToastyCrumpet

Cocklodger in training. You can do better.

Absolutely

Well luckily for you this guy is both lazy and inept. Lazy because he couldn’t even make it past 6 weeks to stop bothering to make an effort and inept because he literally told you this was his plan - to ‘get you’ so he didn’t have to make an effort.

Seriously, 6 weeks is barely scratching the surface of getting to know someone. Most twats
like this let the mask slip much later. You’ve been given a gift really by his incompetence, you could be a year down the line and feeling far more into him once these shenanigans started. At 6 weeks you should be at the stage of easily ending it and chalking it up to experience.

He sounds like a bit of a schemer and planner! You're obviously going to end it with him because your gut instinct is telling you something is off and your personal boundaries are really good.

He sounds like my ex. But I put up with him for 2 years because he was very good looking, until he cheated on me and dumped me for the replacement he had lined up.

Does this man have any friends? Not even other men liked my ex, its very telling looking back.

Oh for heaven's sake. He's seeing you as a cash cow. In his mind you - even though you're five years younger - are going to buy him a house to live in.

Come on, OP. He's really selfish, lazy and greedy. You can do a lot better than this.